Do men like women who are mean to them?

When I was in high school this guy asked me to the school dance, and since his family was struggling financially, I'd have to pay for my own ticket. I was happy that he asked me out and I paid my own way no problem. When I got to the dance he never showed up. The worst part was that I paid my own way, never asked him for money and I thought I was special because I was splitting especially since I overheard most of female peers say a Guy paying for the first date was expected. And here I was alone at the dance, feeling completely stupid. I felt cheap and stupid.

I always believed that guys liked women who pay for their own stuff, make the first move, and doesn't have insanity high standards but I was constantly rejected whenever I did this. Do men like women who are mean to them and take their money? :/ I don't understand