What do you guys think of this?

The other day i saw a Youtube video about a women who refused to give up her dog. (_ boyfriend doesnt like big dogs so they couldnt live together) and everyone was saying how selfish she was and that she is doomed to be single forever. It seems like if a women isnt willing to give up all of her friends, family, pets, career, and children people are quick to call her shallow or cat lady. The only things on this list that im okay with a women giving up is her friends. Everything else seems stupid and boderline abusive.

This is why im not intersted in dating anymore. Men aren't expected to give up anything for a women.

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ElRengo · 70-79, M

Yours seem to be an ill formulated dilemma in more than one dimmension.

Not women and neither men are supposed or should "give up" friends (family, pets, career, and children) to be in a relationship.
There might be some extreme exceptions when some specific "friend" become an enemy of the couple as such cos his / her incompatible behaviour about (orbiters and such fauna).
But is not ussually the case and shouldn´t be an excuse to isolate a partner from their social world.

The second bias here is that men are not expected to make some adjustments for the sake of the relationship. They are as much as women. Or it would be wrong, a double standard.

And for both said mature adjustments are not the ones in your list.

The only one I find good is to drop some aspects of our single lifestyle if they collide with (an example) an enthusiasticaly ageeded romantic / sexual exclusivity.
Perhaps also our list of priorities on spending our time to invest it together.
What, if things are well done, don´t necessarily mean less time with friends.