Can I get some male perspective please?

Those things sound so wildly specific you should already know the answer. It should be somewhat hard to find 2 men that take that exact pattern, let alone assume all do.
As a person I find essential to establish what I expect from a relationship since it makes no sense to me to lie then slowly reveal what I really want and find out that we want different things that's a waste of both our times. That doesn't mean I set the tone it means I put my cards on the table you put yours and we see if it's a match or we should call it quits before the drama.
Would I sooner or later invite her to my home? Yes, that's usually how you get to the intimate part of the relationship.
Would I want to invade her home with my things? No, I like my things in reach. However if she's making me spend a lot of time there I do need the basics I'm not gonna do a no teeth brushed messy hair walk every time I sleep over. If you expect a man or woman to have "sleepovers" but you also expect them to not have a personal drawer and bathroom space, then you're treating them like a one night stand not like someone in a relationship, to me that would be a red flag.

So about accomodation that is a you thing not the other person's problem. If you use people pleasing and forget about your needs to attract people into a relationship, it's your choice and don't be surprised if they expect you to keep that up forever. It's your job to assert your needs and your job to decide when they are not met. If you skip asserting your needs while only tending his/hers then it's only natural that they assume you only live to serve them. So be both a people pleaser and ask to be pleased. Give a favour - ask a favour, see what they're ready to invest early on.
Don't think in terms of hierarchy or you'll always get paranoid about who's in charge and misinterpret simple things as dominance moves. Instead just see if you are happy and remember that
1. Not all men share 1 brain.
2. Most of us don't care who's in charge as long as we're in good company.
3. Most men are just as afraid as you are of being dominated in a relationship, that doesn't mean they want to be in charge, they simply are afraid of being pushed around. So if you start acting paranoid about a hierarchy and always trying to prove he's not the boss of you, you'll just trigger his fear and he'll one up you to show you're not the boss of him... Loop of relationship death.