Can I get some male perspective please?

As a man, when you are dating. Is it essential for you to set the tone of the relationship?
Is it imperative that if you invite a woman into your home and when she invites you into hers, you put things in place to assert your dominance or position?

Is it essential for you to make full use of her attempts to please and accommodate you, so that she thinks only of your needs and very little of her own?

Is this what is done until the hierarchy is established?
Or is this just a certain type of man behaviour?

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

That whole thing sounds contrived and weird, almost territorial. I can only speak for myself, but I wouldn't be happy if I were holding down my mate. The delicate power balance ought to be shared and maintained. That said, I see plenty of situations where the guy is treated like an ATM with a d**k and is valued solely for what he provides; his needs, if they are even considered, are laughed at.

Bottom line? There's plenty of users out there. Avoid.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@uncalled4 I'm far from treating a guy like a dick with an ATM.
I actually treated this person with respect.
He happily made comments whilst we watched TV but the moment I spoke "can we have 5 mins of quiet!"
When I confronted him he said "well I didn't tell you to shut up, that would be rude. "

There was an imbalance and I felt like he started to view be as beneath him and personally I don't appreciate being treated like someone chess piece.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mellowgirl he sounds pretty douchy to me.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@uncalled4 who knows... He is a special needs teacher.
I started to feel like his student rather than his partner.

He blocked me for not responding instantly to his request to meet...
Ah well.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@Mellowgirl he's got impulse control issues. That's not a good look for a teacher.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@uncalled4 thank you