What really happens if a person is TOO picky about dating and appearances?

My friends tell me I’m way too picky and never satisfied with men that are interested in me or who I date. Average men make better boyfriends and good looking men are the worst kind of partners. That’s probably why I never get a second date. Okay so I’m a little picky but I just know what the hell I want. I want a man I can rely on, that treats me right and will be there for me and honest and I can trust. Also there has to be an attraction. Just going to be honest about that.
The guy I’m seeing we had our second date so jokes on them! He’s cute and good looking but he seems very charming and we have good chemistry so far. We’re taking things slow and getting to know each other. My friends think my date will have other girls but what do they know?

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

I think… there’s a difference between having some fundamental healthy standards, enough of an attraction, and only wanting someone Who shares your core values as well as compatible goals/priorities. That’s all long-term foundational stuff.

I think,. Whether someone is too picky might come down to their own market value.

JestAJester · 31-35, M

If youre not picky you end up like my old high school buddies. Stuck at a deadbeat job with three kids, divorced or unhappily married and no way out

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@JestAJester and that’s why I’m very picky. The personality of course is more important but I’m not settling fir less. So their partners/spouses were deadbeats?

JestAJester · 31-35, M

@ElizabethBabe1994 i dont know the stories for all of them but i know a lot of them didn't care of themselves and fights broke out a lot

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@JestAJester ooh

SW-User

People who're too picky end up alone and lonely. Loneliness makes you desperate. Desperation leads to foolish choices. Foolish choices leads to depression. Depression leads to...well you get the picture

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

You never find what you’re looking for (or you dismiss something really awesome) and then you end up single and/or lonely.

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@DoubleRings Yeah but I refuse to settle for less.

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

That’s fine. If the right person comes great. If they don’t then you’re single. No biggie. Unless you get lonely which is not a cake walk like being single is. @ElizabethBabe1994

Slothy

Indeed, I have a friend like this.

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Slothy

@ElizabethBabe1994
I don’t think you’re picky.

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

@Slothy Thank you. I just know what I want and I’m not selling for less.

Slothy

@ElizabethBabe1994

Indeed, don’t settle.

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