How do you all feel about a woman taking a man out on a date? As opposed to vice versa

This girl I always thought was cute messaged me & told me I'm handsome 😶

I tried to play cool & told her "well ask me on a date then, damn 🤷" & she actually asked me on a date 😮

but she told me to choose where we go & I was like "idk... You asked ME out" & I made her pick 🤣

I'm not sure how I'd feel if she legit came, picked me up, took me out, paid & everything 😂 I was half joking because I think I'd feel too out of place for that lol.
I still picked her up & we went half on everything (she insisted on it) but that was a couple months ago, so it's not someone I'm still dating at this moment.

But she still asks me out sometimes & she wants to pick [i]me[/i] up, & actually be the one taking [b]ME[/b] out. It feels so odd to me but my homie was just telling me "dude why don't you let her take you out? What's the deal, you feel like you don't deserve to be treated or what?"

That kinda made it make sense 🤔 Like why do us guys tend to feel weird about letting a woman take US out? I get it's kinda traditional but it also seems quite prideful.
Idk... I guess it just makes me feel like I'm just a scrub 🤷 on the passenger side of my best friends ride y'know. Its not about the control for me.. I just don't like feeling like a bum 😂

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Stark

I was always confused be the dating roles growing up when it came to that topic. So many different ways that work for so many different people. So, I went through many stages/situations to try and figure out what worked best for me. And personally, what works best for me is taking turns with the check 🤷‍♀️. I do think guys do deserve to be treated and wine and dined similar to women. They pay for one date and I pay for the second and so on.

I’ve never been in a position to ask a guy out on a date, but if I were to 🤔 I can see myself willing to pay and treat him.

DarkHeaven ·

@Stark you are a sweet person. 🖤

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Stark that makes sense 🤔 y'know like if you're the one asking, you'd wanna be sure you can afford it 😂 I dated one girl once who would always be like "hey let's go do this" because she knew I'd pay 😂 at that time, I sold weed so once she was like "hey let's go smoke with my cousins" & I was like alright let's go. Then when we got there, NOBODY had weed & they were all like "well we thought you had it?" & I was just like 🤦🤦 y'all fucking with my money lol.

I appreciate your input though & honestly that makes the most sense 👌

Stark

@ChiefWalksWith40oz That’s not cool just sounds like she was taking advantage. Yeah, I do notice most guys are always surprised and pleased by that tactic. I do take into consideration when dating I like to do a lot of shit as well and I’m aware no one owes me anything. So, I have no problem making it a mutual effort even when it comes to that. My SW dad mikowee taught me that. 😩😂

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Stark I definitely felt taken advantage of after that. I actually broke up with her just a few days later & she still tries talking to me sometimes. But we definitely appreciate women showing their appreciation as well. I've let them pay half before.. just never accepted them paying for everything.

But ohh I remember a Mikowee 😮 is that dude still around? I haven't seen him since I've been back

Stark

@ChiefWalksWith40oz what a great man you seem to be. The provider quality is always nice but not often found 😌

Haha idk he claims to be snooping on here but idk what account he uses I always forget because of how often it changes or deleted.

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Stark thank you 🤗 honestly I wouldn't even date at all if I couldn't provide. When I was depressed I literally didn't sleep with or date anybody for 3 years... I just broke outta that 2 years ago. But hmm interesting 🤔
I don't remember anything about him but I definitely remember him lol

Stark

@ChiefWalksWith40oz ah, well that’s good you’re in a better place now ?

Haha. That’s the same for me with most people on here. I took a long break then came back and I’ll recognize usernames but won’t remember anything about the person behind the username. 🤷‍♀️ so, a lot of the time I won’t remember if I liked them or had some on going argument with them and hated them. So, interactions were and still always awkward for me on here now. 🤔 I’m like am I suppose to be nice or mean to this person ??

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Stark oh fasho 🙌
But I feel that 😂 except I never had any arguments here even back then so I never wonder who I didn't get along with. I always just wonder "why did I like them before? 🤔"
Like you for example 🤷 I know I remember you I just don't remember anything about you 😂 just that you're good peoples

Stark

@ChiefWalksWith40oz I was always in an argument with someone on here. I was 🔥 firey 😎. I mean, still am but I’ve chilled out a lot compared to how I use to be.

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@Stark I'll believe you 👌 you still can be fiery 🌶️🔥 I'm sure lol but yeah you're pretty chill

DarkHeaven ·

@Stark remember how many fights I got into? I was a mess when I first came here. We both have chilled. Lol 😂

ChiefWalksWith40oz · 26-30

@DarkHeaven I actually remember you too & you right 😂 but I always thought you were cool 👌

DarkHeaven ·

@ChiefWalksWith40oz Aww. Cool. I used to go by Nothingness back in my fiestier days. ha ha.