Is this normal for dating?

So, there was this girl who went on a date with a guy. She bought her own food and gave him money for gas.

He asked her to come to his house for sex. She refused. He got angry and said she wasted his time. She eventually had to walk home.

I know that most men want 50/50 and consider women who don't are selflesh gold diggers but she paid for his gas and bought her own food, so how is she a gold digger or entitled?

What do you guys think?

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Mindfulness

If you go on a date the guy pays and expects nothing in return.
It may be sexist but I'm old fashioned... well I'm old.

Rhode57 · 56-60, M

@Mindfulness Here here as it should be . About time some learnt about old fashioned manners etc .

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@Mindfulness There is one exception to this, at least for me. If it so happens that the girl offers to pay her share, and I don't feel as if there is chemistry or won't ask her out again, I usually will humor her request to pay her half. If things went well, and I can see myself seeing her again, I for sure pay and insist if she offers.

Mindfulness

@ShadowWolf regardless of how well the date has gone a gentleman pays.
You're not doing it out of expectation or because you want to impress, you're doing it because it's good manners.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@Mindfulness I don't agree with this. I only invest in ventures that I can see moving forward. If she offers to pay her half, and nothing is there chemistry wise, and I'm not planning to/going to see her again, I consider it a nice "getting to know you" and nothing more.

Mindfulness

@ShadowWolf it isn't an investment! That's the point! You invest because you want to yield results, so there's an expectation. No woman should be put in a postion where they 'owe' you something. You pay and walk away.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@Mindfulness If anything paying for them makes it more likely they feel they owe you something man.... I chose to end things platonically if the date didn't go romantically. My "results" I'd be investing in are a romantic relationship. If I don't see it happening at all, why not take the girls offer to pay her half?

Mindfulness

@ShadowWolf we'll agree to differ.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@Mindfulness Indeed. We can agree an expectation of sex on a first date is completely asinine though :)

Mindfulness

@ShadowWolf I don't think anyone mentioned that.

ShadowWolf · 31-35, M

@Mindfulness Look at the original post. The guy expected sex.

Mindfulness

@ShadowWolf fair point, totally unacceptable behaviour.

bhatjc · 46-50, M

@Mindfulness That is right.