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Can you really find a life partner in dating sites?

SW-User
I've never been on dating sites and don't think it's a good thing for me, but.... I have read where some people actually do well.
It's not the same for all of us.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@SW-User I wonder how one can finally settle to one prospect with all the possible matches, and connection just takes time to build. It’s just too easy for others
SW-User
@TessDun Possible matches... almost like a blind date for the most part. lol
I'd rather hit if off with someone without the intent of dating people who may or may not be what they claim.
Surprising to me....

But quite a few of my friends have found their "one" on dating sites.....

(and try to pass it off as "I met her on Facebook" .... while the spouse tells my wife they met on "Match.com") LOL!
TessDun · 36-40, F
@Threepio omg,, 😂 Finding the one is already tough and then you have to deal with nosy friends and relatives about how it all started. I hope it won’t be that embarrassing anymore as it is too common now 😅
@TessDun Yeah.... somebody is always going to ask....

These days when my friends mention to me that he/she have found someone I always tell them to get their stories in sync BEFORE they introduce the new squeeze to mom and dad......
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
I dont think so. Ive stopped looking
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion Ok ill come get you in an hour! Lol! Thankyou for saying this. This really nice of you. Im.sorry that guy was rude to you
@Eddiesolds Only an hour? You are much further away. I would date you. You're a good guy. Don't worry about it. That guy is a schmuck. LOLZ.
Eddiesolds · 61-69, M
@PoetryNEmotion lol! I wish i could be there in an hour. Lol! A date with you be really nice .now ill.just dream about it. Lol!
th3r0n · 41-45, M
Some people have, never worked for me

Probably because there aren’t a lot of guys like me and they thought I was a red flag walking

Online, sincerity and intensity are taken for obsessive behavior, and if I didn’t have intense feelings I wasn’t interested because I refused to settle for anything less
TessDun · 36-40, F
@th3r0n Your intentions are good I hope you find the right one. Maybe those girls are used to playing or being played .
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@TessDun I think so, they mistake sincerity for attempted and failed game

I did find the one actually, now I just have to persuade her to marry me

Prayers are always appreciated
TessDun · 36-40, F
@th3r0n Wow that’s nice and a good progress, praying for you both.
Oh, the stories I could amuse you with from dating sites! Stats say more and more people are finding life partners on dating sites. I haven't had any luck in the past. I might try again in the future. There are decent men out in the world.
@IrishFellaShaney Dating sites seem to be modern and fast and lack content or quality. Times change though. Sexting is not satisfying nor something I am interested in. I want a real partner. Experts say to find dates by joining clubs or exploring hobbies. Living in a smaller town, there are few prospects for me. I decided long ago that if I see a man in a grocery store even, I will approach him. and, if he is interested, I will exchange my cell number. How are you looking for dates, may I ask?
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@IrishFellaShaney You are rude in private. I can see why you are single. Adios. And you aren't worth a block either. Block me, fool. I see you have, I knew you would be rude, but still I did give you a chance. LOLZ.
SW-User
well some do, i personally felt guys who live in the city are better cuz the ones in uni will f anything that walks
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@SW-User I truly hate what so many men have done to women

Surely for the harm they’ve done, but they’ve turned women against us and made them think that we are all out for their flesh and to deceive them

It makes it so hard, because these evil men are so good at seeming good that a decent and truthful man seems like he’s trying the same thing and just not as good at it
SW-User
@th3r0n well you sound genuine but all guys say the same thing
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@SW-User that would be the trouble, I’ve spoken sincerely and deeply emotional with my whole heart just about in tears for depth and sincerity and had women think it was just lines, oh how I despise that

My best friend Brii actually knows I love her, and has said she knows I love her more than her own mother does; I know she’s the one beyond doubt, so maybe in the end it’s good for me that other did not believe in me, but it is surely a terrible thing for the world that so many women have been tricked they can’t trust any man
IrishFellaShaney · 41-45, M
Yeah. But most on there just want one night stands. Or they just want to have online relationships. Or sexting.Doesn't mean though that it's impossible to meet somebody for long term relationships.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@IrishFellaShaney I hope if they just wanted to play they could dare say it in their profile but that is just too idealistic
ABCDEF7 · M
Not tried, but I believe in saying, [i]"If you are looking for the love of your life, stop; they will be waiting for you when you start doing things you love."[/i]

https://similarworlds.com/experiences/life-lessons/1678668-This-is-your-life-Do-what-you-love-and-do-it-often
NCCindy · 36-40, F
@ABCDEF7 Wholeheartedly agree !!!
Fluffybull · F
I do know two people who have met long-term partners on dating sites but I've met more with disastrous (and sometimes very funny 😆😆) stories of dates that went wrong.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@Fluffybull I hope nothing worst had happened like the excessive use of filter which led someone to committing a heinous crime
NotJamieM · 46-50, M
I know people who have met on dating sites and seem happy. Also some who have met in bars. Both seem unlikely places to me, but I guess they DO work sometimes.
NotJamieM · 46-50, M
@TessDun yeah and the way I heard it he was passed out in boxer briefs lol. Could have been worse but still not optimal for a first impression, lol. Must have been a spectacular recovery. 😂
TessDun · 36-40, F
@NotJamieM The apartment owner and her friend must have seen something special 🤭
NotJamieM · 46-50, M
@TessDun quite possibly, lol. That,can easily happen with boxers, lol
WhateverWorks · 36-40
Pretty sure I did lol relationship still feels new (2 and 1/2 years) in the big picture, but everything is solid and moving at a healthy pace.


I found the best way to utilize dating websites is to make sure your profile has more to do with how you live your values (meaningful activities you regularly engage in) and not your personality or listing off interests unless those interests actually relate to your personal values. The algorithm matches people better that way.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@WhateverWorks Good for you both this a good proof that it can actually work👍
It's possible anywhere, but dating profiles are so short and only highlight very particular elements, that it's pretty much a shot in the dark. A site like SW where people really open up, between the trolls and catfish of course, would work much better, if there were more local people on it.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@NerdyPotato Agree on this , as anonymous it’s easier to get a glimpse of one’s personality here compared to the ones in dating sites where users have to be their most desirable selves.
@NerdyPotato I met 3 men from EP. Only the first was real and decent. The rest were duds.
DestroyerOfIdeologies · 22-25, M
no but you can in SW :)
Salinanana · 22-25, F
i'd say it's rare. i know someone who met their wife there, but most people i know use it for one night stands.
Salinanana · 22-25, F
@IrishFellaShaney yeah. it's also risky cause there are some real creeps there.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@Salinanana Ghosting seems common too after
Salinanana · 22-25, F
@TessDun yeah a lot of people (mostly girls) use it for validation. no real interest in meeting up or even talking to others.
it's a real problem.
krf336 · M
Its possible, but you have to wade through the people looking for "the perfect tonight" to get there. And most of those sites are jyst becoming quick hookup options.
SW-User
Didn't find my life partner on there, but I did find a narcissistic pos living a double life on there 🙃
TessDun · 36-40, F
@SW-User Yes and many are even married already 😓
SW-User
@TessDun Oh yes! I also got a lot of offers on there😅 Like no Dave I didn't swipe right to suck your dingdong for $300, but thank you for nothing😂😂
TessDun · 36-40, F
@SW-User That’s wild 😝 If only they were allowed to use their dingdong’s photo as profile pic so they won’t have to waste time sending it lol 😂 . Many seem to think it’s all that matters
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
Why not? Hiw is that any different from any other way? Of course you do have to meet in person.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@HoraceGreenley It’s like people there get too many options and that would be hard to commit to just one. There is always another option when one sees a tiny flaw in the other.
HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
@TessDun Sure...I get that. Bottom line is you still have to meet in person
The only extremely limited time I was on one..... I was like .... Nope ok runnnnnnn

All these girls wanted was sex..... im so not like that
SW-User
[c=4C0073]it has been known to happen ..
how happy they end up being, is unknown[/c]
TessDun · 36-40, F
@SW-User I hope they last and end up really happy
eMortal · M
They don’t become life partner until you meet face to face.
IrishFellaShaney · 41-45, M
@eMortal Which rarely happens on them sites
Diesel95 · 36-40, MVIP
I never have all I ever found was heartbreak
TessDun · 36-40, F
@Diesel95 Sorry to hear that :(
Diesel95 · 36-40, MVIP
@TessDun Thanks i am slowly recovering
nacnud · 31-35, M
Yes it is possible. I did and also know friends who did.
quinnlynn · 46-50, F
I don't see why not. It's not all that different than anywhere else.
pdockal · 56-60, M
Why not
Anything is possible
Gotta keep an open mind
NCCindy · 36-40, F
I know multiple people who have.
Miklee02 · 51-55, F
I think it could be possible
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
TessDun · 36-40, F
@AngelKrish neutral
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
@TessDun YEsss....as i know who got married after meeting on dating sites
Starcrossed · 41-45, F
A friend of mine did.
InHeaven · F
Yes, and even marry
IrishFellaShaney · 41-45, M
PoetryNMotion is a rude sexist woman, who generalizes all men based on her online experiences. Men stay clear.
yea and if he has teeth and can chew his own food you got a winner
ViciDraco · 36-40, M
You can, doesn't mean it is going to be easy. Paid dating services might be better but a lot of the free/cheap dating sites are overwhelmed by people looking for quick hookups.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@ViciDraco Very true about the paid ones specially those that are verified
Azlotto · M
Maybe, if they're actually the person they advertised.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Sure. I don’t think location of where people meet helps if their love lasts or not. Lots of people here met in college or in their hometown, work, through friends and some of are happy and some aren’t.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit That makes perfect sense
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
It happens, but the chances are barely any higher than winning the lottery jackpot.
In fact I think you have a higher chance to be struck by lightning.
TessDun · 36-40, F
@FeetAreFantasticLightning scares me more🤣
empanadas · 31-35, M
No, just STDs
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TessDun · 36-40, F
@RogueLoner Exactly 😂
FeetAreFantastic · 41-45, M
@RogueLoner No you can't. But you definitely can't pick a partner like that on a dating site.

 
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