Not sure on how to gauge the situation...
Began dating this guy & we hit off immedately... we both agreed we wnted to take it slow & talking nearly every day.... we had 2 dates but on the 2nd date we met around lunch time though the question of getting food wasn't discussed. He showed up eating a sandwich & said 'oh i was gonna ring if u wanted something from the shop' i thought well u didn't... conversation was flowing but he did pick up 3 or 4 calls from his son (i know he son will always come 1st & wudn't stand in the way of that) but apparently there was a situation at hand at the time so didn't think anything of it.
We both are stying with our corresponding families & have discussed somewhat on the struggles with that.
He seems obsessed with sport which reminded me of my ex's obsession with video games which is a kind of red flag for me....
He also said we weren't serious yet (i wasn't thinking it as after 2 dates) but he asked me not to sleep around!! I'm not chatting to anyone else at the minute anyway....
Anyway cut to Xmas, I knew he'd be busy with his family & i knew he wudn't be able to talk much but we discussed about meeting up over the break. Unfortunately i got covid (I'm fine now) but he didn't really ask how i was doing or how i was getting on with isolating but i was asking him how he was getting on with his family over the brek. Didn't seem he was taking an intersst. Also i didn't ant to interfere with him time with his family
One day over the brek i was suffering from depression & snapped & did send him an insensitive message. I immediately apologised for it & he acceptted it. But then said he needed some space until after the New Year as he had a lot of family stuff going on. But the following day he was still sending me memes etc...
I was getting confused with the mixed message.... I apologised to him again & said I'd give him the space he needed...
Feel i am in limbo now.... I am willing to overlook the phone calls & the food thing on the 2nd date but unsure if I shld hold out if he'll message or not...
I am keeping busy & not checking me phone if he has messaged but in a way i feel he wasn't taking an interest or maybe just upset i sent him that insensitive message. Maybe he does need the space but felt it too soon for something that wasn't serious yet. before I sent that message I did say i'd message a few days later but didn't seem to like it...
Sorry for the rant but should I just forget about him?
We both are stying with our corresponding families & have discussed somewhat on the struggles with that.
He seems obsessed with sport which reminded me of my ex's obsession with video games which is a kind of red flag for me....
He also said we weren't serious yet (i wasn't thinking it as after 2 dates) but he asked me not to sleep around!! I'm not chatting to anyone else at the minute anyway....
Anyway cut to Xmas, I knew he'd be busy with his family & i knew he wudn't be able to talk much but we discussed about meeting up over the break. Unfortunately i got covid (I'm fine now) but he didn't really ask how i was doing or how i was getting on with isolating but i was asking him how he was getting on with his family over the brek. Didn't seem he was taking an intersst. Also i didn't ant to interfere with him time with his family
One day over the brek i was suffering from depression & snapped & did send him an insensitive message. I immediately apologised for it & he acceptted it. But then said he needed some space until after the New Year as he had a lot of family stuff going on. But the following day he was still sending me memes etc...
I was getting confused with the mixed message.... I apologised to him again & said I'd give him the space he needed...
Feel i am in limbo now.... I am willing to overlook the phone calls & the food thing on the 2nd date but unsure if I shld hold out if he'll message or not...
I am keeping busy & not checking me phone if he has messaged but in a way i feel he wasn't taking an interest or maybe just upset i sent him that insensitive message. Maybe he does need the space but felt it too soon for something that wasn't serious yet. before I sent that message I did say i'd message a few days later but didn't seem to like it...
Sorry for the rant but should I just forget about him?
36-40, F
