Not sure on how to gauge the situation...

Began dating this guy & we hit off immedately... we both agreed we wnted to take it slow & talking nearly every day.... we had 2 dates but on the 2nd date we met around lunch time though the question of getting food wasn't discussed. He showed up eating a sandwich & said 'oh i was gonna ring if u wanted something from the shop' i thought well u didn't... conversation was flowing but he did pick up 3 or 4 calls from his son (i know he son will always come 1st & wudn't stand in the way of that) but apparently there was a situation at hand at the time so didn't think anything of it.

We both are stying with our corresponding families & have discussed somewhat on the struggles with that.

He seems obsessed with sport which reminded me of my ex's obsession with video games which is a kind of red flag for me....

He also said we weren't serious yet (i wasn't thinking it as after 2 dates) but he asked me not to sleep around!! I'm not chatting to anyone else at the minute anyway....

Anyway cut to Xmas, I knew he'd be busy with his family & i knew he wudn't be able to talk much but we discussed about meeting up over the break. Unfortunately i got covid (I'm fine now) but he didn't really ask how i was doing or how i was getting on with isolating but i was asking him how he was getting on with his family over the brek. Didn't seem he was taking an intersst. Also i didn't ant to interfere with him time with his family

One day over the brek i was suffering from depression & snapped & did send him an insensitive message. I immediately apologised for it & he acceptted it. But then said he needed some space until after the New Year as he had a lot of family stuff going on. But the following day he was still sending me memes etc...

I was getting confused with the mixed message.... I apologised to him again & said I'd give him the space he needed...

Feel i am in limbo now.... I am willing to overlook the phone calls & the food thing on the 2nd date but unsure if I shld hold out if he'll message or not...

I am keeping busy & not checking me phone if he has messaged but in a way i feel he wasn't taking an interest or maybe just upset i sent him that insensitive message. Maybe he does need the space but felt it too soon for something that wasn't serious yet. before I sent that message I did say i'd message a few days later but didn't seem to like it...

Sorry for the rant but should I just forget about him?

Pinkstarburst

You had two dates and he set a restriction asking you not to sleep with anyone. Then he doesn’t bother to send any kind of holiday note wishing you a Happy Christmas. You reach out struggling and he wants space.

You had a nice couple dates…move on. He is insecure and will not be able to give you what you desire in a relationship.

Dainbramadge · 56-60, M

And remember this is just my opinion from reading what you wrote.
He is self-centered and you need more than that.
You wrote about the insensitive things he was doing but yet said you could overlook those
This is when people try the hardest to be on their good behavior is in the first few days
If he is acting like this now how do you think he will act in 2 years
He didn't want to commit but yet didn't want you doing anything with anybody else either
He wants his cake and eat it too. I wouldn't be surprised if he wasn't seeing someone else the whole time asking you not to.
If you are getting all these red flags already you should probably cut and run.
Just my opinion

Pherick · 41-45, M

I mean, you have been on two dates are you already feeling enough anxiety and existential dread from this relationship you need to post online for advice?

I just can't imagine this smoothing itself out and everything being peachy from here on it. Sounds like he isn't that interested and that you should drop him and move on.

Don't get involved with someone who brings too much drama after just 2 dates.