Why don't people like too nice people (honest answers)?

I don't get it. I'm a very nice kind and too nice person and my best friend, close friends and family don't like it. I though you're suppose to be nice. I try so hard to be kind, nice and very nice but some people are difficult to please. My best friend told me I'm trying way too hard and I'm being fake and stop. She told me I'm so boring that it makes her wanna rip her hair off. How am I boring? I'm just being nice. My dad hates me for being too nice and slapped me with reality. He said let people do all the work in chosing when we have outings and I'm being lazy. I leave things unsolved and I always butt into conversations to be nice.
I had a date but I wasn't ask for a second one.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

Could you clarify this?

[quote]He said let people do all the work in chosing when we have outings and I'm being lazy. I leave things unsolved and I always butt into conversations to be nice. [/quote]

How is this being nice?

PoppyLoveLala · F

@DeWayfarer I didn't wanna be selfish to tell them what I wanna do all the time. My dad said, "Quit agreeing with people. What do YOU want to do?"
My friends made me do all the chosing. My friend was like, "Movies or shopping? YOU pick."

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@PoppyLoveLala I see. He really wants you to be more "aggressive". Which is not really being mean.

Problem is, it doesn't sound like you want to be aggressive.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@PoppyLoveLala The other thing, with leaving things unsolved, is kind of a different problem. That's not really a aggressive thing. More of a attention span problem.

That you can, and should, work on. Because it could cause problems in your every day life.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@DeWayfarer I don't wanna be mean

PoppyLoveLala · F

@DeWayfarer How?

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@PoppyLoveLala [quote]I don't wanna be mean[/quote]

As I have said, being aggressive isn't being mean. And if you look at the "like" someone else agrees with me. A lady at that!

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@PoppyLoveLala [quote]How[/quote]

How can leaving problems unsolved cause problems? That's obvious really!

If your problems are unsolved you will never be happy.

How can you work on that?

Solve just one thing at a time. Don't wander off and try something else.

Apart of being nice is actually not afflicting your problems on to others.

And not afflicting your problems onto others can only happen if you solve your problems yourself.

You are being mean to others if you don't solve your problems yourself!!!