Sexual Pen Pal

Very well written

I had one, and it was a pleasant and stimulating relationship. Sadly it ended when her hubby saw one of her/our emails.

That sounds like a great idea sign me up

Hey have a chat in pm

WFH??

Ok!

[quote]How can I tell her I desire one and would like her to have one?
[/quote]

By introducing the concept of an "open marriage" to her. Then tell her what having an open marriage actually means for both partners.

When she asks you why you want an open marriage, then tell her of your desire for a BBC and your desire that she also have a similar experience with a BBC, but only if she wants to have that experience!

If she doesn't want that experience, then ask her if she'd mind if you had a BBC experience anyway?

Okay, I'll throw my orange into the hat and pretend to be Doctor Ruth for you!

[quote]is that better than using an app like grindr? Or should I go somewhere specific?[/quote]

No, don't use grindr! Don't use any dating site at all. When meeting people, it's very important to feel their energy when you get within 3 feet of them. If you speak to someone online or on an app, you cannot feel their energy through the internet. 99% of choosing to approach someone is from the energy you feel from them, not from what they say to you over the internet!

Where to go to meet guys, is anywhere that guys hangout alone. For example, the grocery store is a great spot to meet guys! I can't tell you how many guys I've befriended at the banana counter in a grocery store who are there shopping alone!

Again, it's their energy you must feel first, before you even really start talking to them. If their energy sucks or you feel very uncomfortable in their presence, then move on and don't look back.

[quote]Should I tell her afterwards if they take me home?[/quote]

If you are only trying to satisfy your curiosity about BBC's, then no, don't say anything about your adventure.

But if your curiosity starts to interfere with your marriage, then you'll have no other choice but to tell her afterwards what's been going on with you.

[quote]I want to know what it feels like to have a cock in my ass but not sure if I would want a real one. I bought her a big one and she freaked[/quote]

I think the first thing that may have crossed your wife's mind would be, "if we're going to play this game of strap-on, then at least provide me with a level playing field to work with".

What I mean by this is, if you have a large erection yourself, then providing her with a large strap-on fake erection to use on you is creating a level playing field.

But if the fake erection you are asking her to use on YOU, is larger than the real erection that you'd use on her during an act of romantic love making, you are asking your wife to give you something that you cannot ever hope to reciprocate in return to her. That's called shooting oneself in the foot to attempt otherwise.

Is your erection as large as the one you provided for your wife to strap-on to herself for your benefit?

[quote]Can or would you help me satisfy the curiosity? Could you help me meet someone?[/quote]

It's actually very easy to meet guys of all stripes if you want to know the truth! You don't need anyone to act on your behalf. Just do what I do and that is, simply walk up to a guy you think looks interesting, introduce yourself, then tell him you think he looks like an interesting kind of guy who caught your eye, then exchange pleasantries as he introduces himself to you, then ask him if he'd like to join you for lunch or for a coffee someplace? It's really as easy as that!

[quote]What if I let her have a BBC? Would that be fair?[/quote]

It's not a matter of YOU letting her have anything. You don't own your wife just because you're married to her.

What would be fair would be to let your wife know that you can be at peace with yourself with any decision that she makes for herself, which includes a BBC if she so desires one.

[quote]Why do you suppose that your wife has issues with performing traditional male roles in the bedroom?[/quote]

[quote]She says it makes me seem gay if I want her to use a fake cock on me[/quote]

Well, in my professional opinion, it would make you appear bi-sexual, meaning not entirely gay if you wanted her to use a fake male device on you.

Are you gay, which means 'not straight', or are you bi-sexual, which means 'not straight' either?

[quote]No it was about 50% longer and thicker and based on some porn she had seen on my computer. She yelled at me that I was to scared to have a real one and she was not giving me the fake one.[/quote]

Therein lies you're problem! You are asking your wife to give you something which you cannot ever hope to give her in return. You can't have it both ways and expect to have a healthy marriage!

[quote]What is the best way you have found to figures size?[/quote]

That's where I may have it over you! I don't ever speculate size. I just stand there playing the dumb blonde until he gets an erection, then I simply stare at the front of his jeans to find his size!

[quote]What if I don;t tell her and just have the experience?[/quote]

There is nothing wrong with you satisfying your curiosity if that's only as far as it goes. If your curiosity starts to interfere with your marriage, then you've gone too far.

So, I'm sensing your desire for a role-reversal here between you and your female wife.

Why do you suppose that your wife has issues with performing traditional male roles in the bedroom?

[quote]Go with me and tell me if you think he has the right vibe and tell me if you think he would right for me.[/quote]

Would you like me to take him back to my condo first, try him out, then get back to you with my results before you get involved on your own?

[quote]I want to explore[/quote]

You want to explore what? Hey, I'm not a dentist so don't make me drag answers out of you like I was pulling teeth, okay?

[quote]May I watch?[/quote]

Sure! No problem! Where do you want to sit... at the foot of the bed, or off to the side in a wooden chair? I also have pens and paper if you'd like to take notes.

[quote]I am afraid she would leave if she knew the full extent of my desires[/quote]

Well the truth is, if your wife chose to have an experience with a BBC as you'd like her to do, she may leave you anyway! What's the difference?

[quote]I want her to use a strap on[/quote]

Okay, you want her to use a strap-on so that she can pretend that she's a male for your benefit, is that correct?

[quote]I would like you to tell him what I want and see if he will help me
[/quote]

Would you mind if I tried him out first, just so you don't get sold a bill of goods?

[quote] Will that make me a whore?[/quote]

No, but it will make you the recipient of the services of a whore though!

[quote]What would you consider interference? If I do it more than once?[/quote]

Interference is when your 'sport screwing' interferes with your love life.

[quote]TBT I just want to feel a cock in me not date them[/quote]

Make sure you tell the guy that at the coffee shop!

What sort of desires do you have that your wife takes exception to?

Hello young man, what brings you to my sex therapy clinic today?!

[quote]Would help me the first time[/quote]

How would I do that?