Some partial bitterness

He suggested that we break up. Because he realised he wants a family and I don't. So we had the discussion yesterday. Today was my nameday. It's a thing in Greece. And I just spent it with few people that we go for hikes together. I even had a chance to swim in a lake and I love these things... Yet yet .. i spent the day without anyone close, friend, family or him. It's uhm weird. I spent this year's birthday on August, alone too, i had took myself to a concert.
Idk it is what it is i guess, but there is some partial bitterness to it, maybe practice makes perfect? ❤️

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

Seems a jerk move to initiate that conversation right before that special day.

I wouldn’t try to gaslight yourself by suggesting that special days alone that you’d rather have spent in supportive, loving, celebratory company somehow shouldn’t feel lonely. Humans are social creatures and community oriented. It’s natural to want to celebrate with people.

There are also lots of people out there who don’t want children. I have a number of friends who are in relationships without plans to procreate. They love their work. They love their freedom. They would be unhappy to shrink either of those by creating a dependent. It’s not weird to want a partner without motherhood in mind. It does seem like something you’d wanna mention sooner than later though in future dating because for people who do you want children there’s a limited amount of time to do that.

elafina · 36-40, F

@WhateverWorks thank you for your words..:)
I do mention it you know?! But the guys seem to not take it seriously in the beginning. They're maybe thinking that I'm going to change my mind.
I am thinking now that maybe there were other reasons that this one wanted to let me go, so he found something that I wouldn't have anything to say. I don't like to think like this.
Anyways, sleep is helpful and now I'm going make myself a warm coffee and get ready for another mountain hiking with the team..🏞️

WhateverWorks · 36-40

😞 It’s the worst when you’re transparent /authentic about yourself from the get-go, but they go into the relationship silently thinking they can change you. My friends I mentioned who decided early on they don’t want children also ran into this quite often. I wish society was more respectful about women’s choice on this matter @elafina