What its like having a racist friend

In truth I dont think shes really that racist she is a great person and 90% of the time shes great but their is a issue of her constantly making childish racist jokes. She has a Mexican boyfriend she keeps making fun of Mexicans and their life style. I am black and I was drying my clothes and she touchedd them and then after touching them said she felt the need to break dance even though they were just regular clothes.

Shes great but its always constant childish remarks in relation to gender and race. She told me that I have to like spicey food cause I'm black. If I wear a white t shirt I look like a rapper she calls even though I don't like rap. She is good but she makes little comments like this daily. The reason I am not so hard on her about it is because shes a drug addict and I see that as a handicap but these kinds of daily comments are so annoying.

I hope I don't sound sensitive or like a cry baby but its daily. Like I said I feel strange about it because she is a amazing person.

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AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

My Dad was racist and still had friends of every race. I think it’s this thinning trickle down of hate. Where insensitivity turned to humor to cope with a changing society. He told jokes he should have been shot for and ended up getting fired from teaching for being a jerk to female students.

He didn’t raise me and my Mom was exactly opposite. She fought for equality. She even got beat up for being white at a rally, but picked herself up and still stood to defend her African American classmates.

I don’t have a racist thought in my head. I have a slight fear of men, but otherwise I’m mostly blind to outside appearance.

I think someone should tell her she’s not funny. Don’t let it continue to be a joke because it’s really not. We’re definitely still struggling to this day for equality and she needs to change her lens

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@AlchemyFox Thank you for sharing that and I feel that I understand your dad because it sounds kind of like my friend it really is a strange thing to say that shes such a good person she is but she just has that major issue. As a man I kind of understand your fear of men...