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Devices or Outside? That is the Question.

I'm not a parent but I notice that when you have a child cooped up in one environment setting for too long(home) when 95% percent of their time is on devices from hours on end then when certain devices are locked during a certain time or low on battery then the unnecessary pestering/ unproductive and unstructured bouncy activities indoors begin.

Sometimes I take the kid outside after work to do different activities/games which doesn't include a phone or tablet to have fun and for him to socialize with others, burn some energy etc. But what I noticed he would only go outside around where he lives unless an adult is with him but the other children adjust fine amongst each other a lot without their relative out there 24/7. Thursday he wanted to go outside but nooooo his mom asked him if he wanted to play uno possibly to avoid him from playing with another child who is problematic with her son. I feel like his mom might be struggling between being his mom and being his friend.

When the kid doesn't go outside and does unnecessary things his mother gets annoyed and use the words, "You're stressing me out cut it out!" So basically as a parent you rely too much on devices to keep your child entertained but when he does too much you even mentioned taking him to his grandmothers. What will he possibly do at his grandmothers? Devices, eat, and be bouncy? It still doesn't solve the problem because he still going to come back and do the same things since she states the words stressed, annoyed, overstimulated etc plenty of times.

The problem is as a parent you are not giving him enough to work with that is structured in order for him to not be bouncy/loud indoors and don't have him outside much. But it is ok when the mom is overly loud from excitement with the child during most things but when the mom is quiet or needs her peace then she wants to yell at the kid. From the beginning the mom should of made it clear once we are inside we use our inside voices etc. So basically the kid don't know when to cut out the loudness unless he mom says something since he over does it.
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SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
Children need some time away from their parents as soon as they are old enough to cope. Modern life can be too structured and regimented. They need space to develop independently and to make mistakes and noise wthout fear of criticism.
OpalFlower · 36-40, F
@SunshineGirlHow old is old enough when they need away time from their parents? The child is 6. The other children I notice some are younger, at least 6, or older than 6 by one year or 2 but I see them outside more often. It isn't raining out as of yet and the kid never asked anyone can he go outside at all. He would only go outside if we go. Strangely enough yesterday he asked can he go for a walk AND I WAS SHOCKED because he never ask but I asked him who going to walk with you because I was working and his uncle was either playing games or asleep. So something is up. But making loud noises often inside though? Where others live inside the same place in an apartment upstairs and downstairs where people might hear it? There is a time and a place for being loud during sports games, amusement parks, outside playing, but inside.....? I usually tell him inside voice but the mom is setting confusing guidelines. Like it is ok for the child to be loud inside if they are playing cards etc. But when the child is on his own and being loud then it is a problem because the mom is relaxing. So they created something that now is a bothersome to them as well.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
@OpalFlower In my opinion, it is deeply worrying that a 6 year old is spending 95% of his time on devices. Boys are naturally noisy and adventurous. It is unnatural to confine them indoors and exoect them to be well behaved, especially when their friends are playing. It is good that he asked to go out.
pdockal · 56-60, M
Always outside as much as possible even for pups

 
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