🖤 NASTYNESS AT ITS BEST🖤

I found out — AGAIN— that despite all the talks, promises, prayers, tears, and “fresh starts,” my husband went back to the same behaviour that has been destroying our marriage for years. Someone on here sent me proof of recent chats and they were not friendly chats, but highly adult rated!

It’s not just the messages.
It’s the constant accusations toward me, the controlling moments, the emotional pressure, the late-night arguments, and the feeling that I’m always the one who has to prove myself because of my betrayal on here while he repeats the same patterns over and over again!!

I am not posting this to embarrass anyone.
Not to hurt him.
Not to create drama!

I’m emotionally exhausted.
Not angry.
Not vengeful.
Just… tired. Tired in the deepest place inside a person

I wasn’t a perfect wife… I made mistakes, I acted out of hurt, and I own that. But my actions didn’t come from boredom or looking for trouble, they came from a heart that felt betrayed, unseen, and pushed into a corner I never asked to be in. It came from trying to survive pain I didn't know how to express. None of this is pretty!

And the public apology....
I’m not stupid.
I’m not blind.
I’m not going to pretend that a beautifully–written post can cover the damage done in private.

I’ve owned my faults. I’ve faced them.
But his latest betrayal wasn’t just a mistake, it was a choice that ripped open wounds I’ve been fighting hard to heal.

I've tried...God knows I've tried🖤

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LadyGrace

Honey, you deserve a break and even more. Enough is enough, don't you think? I agree and I think you feel that way too. I think you're living with a narcissist and that is totally draining. You don't deserve that. I think it may be time to get out. I hate to say that but if you don't, it will start to ruin your health and it probably already has. This guy is totally controlling. For your own sake, I think it's time for you to leave your abuser. There is no relationship there. If he has to keep lying about everything and then blaming you for everything, there's no relationship to salvage. It's not the way a man should treat his wife. You need to get away from him for good. I usually wouldn't say that but when it comes to losing your health, yes you need to get away for good. Where there's no trust or communication that is healthy, there's no relationship. There's no reason to allow him to continue to abuse you. Things are not going to change. With narcissists, they only get worse. Please love yourself enough to get away. And don't ever let him know where you're at. What do you say to all this? Will you do it? And yes, God definitely does know you tried. I went through the same thing, but I got out. It's imperative that you do, too. I am praying for you and if you need to talk or need any type of advice, I'm here. You can always PM me. Don't walk away....RUN! And never tell him your plans or fight with him again. He won't hear you. He's only interested in his own selfish desires. The minute you tell him what you're going to do is the minute you're going to have a battle on your hands you can't handle. So plan carefully.

alan20 · M

Hurting someone is the one thing I cannot accept. So you have my sympathies. If he's riding roughshod over your feelings just for his own selfish reasons, get rid of!

PHlover19701 · 56-60, M

Im so sorry to hear that. Thats a lot of pain. Hugs

Unefilletrescurieuse · F

😢 🫂

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