I kinda understand how men get confused & think woman are hitting on them when we're actually just being friendly.

Since I don't know ahead of time when I might desire sex, I never speak to men. My attitude might seem like a contract binding me to service, all the way to the orgasm. My freedom to care is seen as frigid, they're entitled to hurt me.
Modern sex is impossible for genuine people. I cannot perform the things you are entitled to from the internet porn you love.