NoobGains · 18-21, M
One belief I had to outgrow was thinking that being “the strong one” meant carrying everything alone.
As life humbled me, I realized real strength is learning when to release what’s breaking you and embrace what’s actually healing you. I used to believe endurance was about surviving storms in silence, but now I see it’s about choosing peace even when chaos feels familiar.
It is that shift in which changed how I move in relationships, how I work, and how I show up in a society that often mistakes emotional suppression for maturity. Because I do personal reflection journaling almost every day, I'm always coming up with my own quotes based on whatever life lesson I'm wrestling with at the moment.
It’s just how my mind works...I process things by turning them into something meaningful, something I can look back on later. Back in High School, I wrote one that stuck with me so deeply I still have it pinned on my wall with all my other little reminders and inspirations. It still feels true to who I am today.
As life humbled me, I realized real strength is learning when to release what’s breaking you and embrace what’s actually healing you. I used to believe endurance was about surviving storms in silence, but now I see it’s about choosing peace even when chaos feels familiar.
It is that shift in which changed how I move in relationships, how I work, and how I show up in a society that often mistakes emotional suppression for maturity. Because I do personal reflection journaling almost every day, I'm always coming up with my own quotes based on whatever life lesson I'm wrestling with at the moment.
It’s just how my mind works...I process things by turning them into something meaningful, something I can look back on later. Back in High School, I wrote one that stuck with me so deeply I still have it pinned on my wall with all my other little reminders and inspirations. It still feels true to who I am today.
“Strength isn’t proven by how much weight you hold; it's revealed by what you finally allow yourself to put down.”
SleepingWithGhosts · 46-50, M
I once completely believed in the Christian God and the Holy Trinity and all of that. I believed that going to church and having Bible study and such would make me a better person. Then in 2010, my wife at the time was pregnant with what was to be our second child. I got a call on August 1sr of that month from her while I was at work, that she had been rushed to the hospital, that something was wrong. By the time I got there, our son had passed. She had been eight months pregnant, and her doctor could find no conclusive reason as to why he died. I stayed at the hospital for what seemed like an eternity until she told me to go home and get some sleep. I went home and proceeded to get drunk instead. It was in the midst of my drunkenness that I cursed my Christian God. If Christ died for our sins, why would he take an unborn child from me? My son never even had the chance to sin. I went through the next three years extremely angry at God, but I did decide to quit drinking. Over the next thirteen years, I explored many different religions, but more importantly, spirituality. I've gone through two marriages since then, but I have realized that it wasn't God that made them fail, nor was it God who took my child. It's just the way of the universe. Somethings are unexplainable, and possibly for the better. I see myself as a better person now for embracing the vibes of the universe and trying to understand them. I have learned to accept things as they are, and to seek out love and to give that same love to everyone. Peace to you as well, my brother.
@SleepingWithGhosts i still believe my Christian faith and resspect the answers you have come to conclude too. I know grief has many stages and we want to know why and some truths are very hard to accept. Im sorry you had to go through those challenges but im glad you give love to everyone. Peace to you too.
JollyRoger · 70-79, M
@DeadOrbit @SleepingWithGhosts
Orbit: I'm glad you still believe in a God; Sleeping: I believe in God and that He created the Universe and us. However, I do not expect God to intercede in how the biological or physical events in our world affect us. What I do expect God to do is to give me and the people I rely on the knowledge and skill to improve our lives: Whether that be a doctor performing a surgery or a police person investigating on my behalf or myself as I try to help someone. To me, God is a 'watcher' who has made a creation (us) and is discerning which of us learn about ourselves and His universe and practise 'good' to each other while we are alive on this planet that we call Earth. I do not believe that he created just the Earth for Adam and Eve... but that He might have created many human beings at different locations - It's up to us to learn to live together. The better job we do at that we will be rewarded after this life is over.
So - forgive (an attribute of being a good person) the event of your lost son and the yourself for harboring your grief so long that you had to forgo your marriage and carry that grief into a second marriage - abusing yourself in the process.
Orbit: I'm glad you still believe in a God; Sleeping: I believe in God and that He created the Universe and us. However, I do not expect God to intercede in how the biological or physical events in our world affect us. What I do expect God to do is to give me and the people I rely on the knowledge and skill to improve our lives: Whether that be a doctor performing a surgery or a police person investigating on my behalf or myself as I try to help someone. To me, God is a 'watcher' who has made a creation (us) and is discerning which of us learn about ourselves and His universe and practise 'good' to each other while we are alive on this planet that we call Earth. I do not believe that he created just the Earth for Adam and Eve... but that He might have created many human beings at different locations - It's up to us to learn to live together. The better job we do at that we will be rewarded after this life is over.
So - forgive (an attribute of being a good person) the event of your lost son and the yourself for harboring your grief so long that you had to forgo your marriage and carry that grief into a second marriage - abusing yourself in the process.
@JollyRoger in the bible it says god gave us free will. I don't think it makes sense for god to interject after doing that. The actual translation to anything is possible with god is actually being physically with god. To me life is just a trial to accept him and build a relationship and with grace we can be rewarded. Whatever happens in the physical world is just chance and there isnt meaning in it. That is how i see things.
JeNeSaisPas · 51-55, F
@JeNeSaisPas society does put pressure on things but there are all walks to life
JollyRoger · 70-79, M
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WanderingHelplessly · 51-55, MNew
I know this will probably be controversial, but belief in God or any Gods. The older I get the more I look back at my blind faith and think, "What The Fuck?"
candycane · 36-40, F
that all parents loved there kids
BlueSkyKing · M
We’re all children of The Enlightenment, which means that we should be looking for strong evidence before committing to a belief. Not magical claims and anecdotal statements.
Evidence meaning detectable, measurable, and repeatability testable. Along with falsification.
Evidence meaning detectable, measurable, and repeatability testable. Along with falsification.