I got blocked on IG by the one ex that got away

I never messaged her, never watched nor liked any of her stuff. I just searched her name to see her profile pic once in awhile. I hate that I still care...but at the same time, I feel like I needed this to completely close the door on this lie that I will never find a connection like i had with her with someone else. I have to start truly focusing on the next woman that comes into my life. It wasn't fair to the women I kept meeting and comparing them to how someone used to be.

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SaorUladh · 26-30, M

It wasn't fair to the women I keep meeting and comparing them to how someone used to be.

That hits pretty close to home.

Yeah bro. It's for the best. Sometimes it isn't easy to completely move on but the correct and healthiest choices aren't always easy.

to completely close the door on this lie that I will never find connection I had with her to someone else

That's the stuff right there. You're right. It is a lie. Life is full of opportunity. You can find that kind of connection again and I hope you do.

empanadas · 31-35, M

@SaorUladh thank you, man. Much appreciated, it's true. We hold on to how someone used to be and not who they are in the present time. Life is full of opportunities that I kept closing because of these false hopes. I have met amazing women but I realized I pushed them away because of this. I'm sure the next women I find will be happy I can just focus on her.

SaorUladh · 26-30, M

@empanadas
It's funny how we act sometimes. Like we can't see what's in front of us because we're fixating on something from the past or the future, or maybe even an idealised image of someone we know or knew.

But still, as I always say, at least you've reached this point now. You've learned from this and you can move forward and do better

GunFinger · F

She did that so she could move on. Might be telling you to move on too. You'll find that life is easier that way. You both can breathe.

empanadas · 31-35, M

@GunFinger the wild thing is that she's married and I haven't spoken to her in years. Unless she found out about my posts on sw, there's no way she could had known I was randomly searching her name like once a month or so. But it is what it is. I think this is a sign to leave this false hope in the past.

Iwillwait · M

How do you know you are blocked?

empanadas · 31-35, M

@Iwillwait I searched her name on my friend's account and she showed up but not on my search

Iwillwait · M

@empanadas Ahh..,.

deadgerbil · 26-30, M

Hard pill to swallow but now you can move on with new lessons learnt

BadAssTunaBotHoe

It's true that nobody else will be the same as her, but someone else can be every bit as compelling. When you met those truly special ones they redefine your tastes. They don't come along every day but they do come along. Often you don't see them coming, they fly under the radar. They just have that something different.

There is no "the one", there are many.

Reject · 26-30, M

I understand not being able to move on completely. I still sign on here just hoping to see someone who blocked me 7 years ago. New connections will never be the same, but they can be better.

HannahSky · F

@SkeetSkeet went all the way to some unknown country to show you it's ok to move on. It's a big world and lots of women would love to know you ✨

BloviatingBuffoon · F

Good for you. There’s only one ex that I talked once in a few years but the rest are 🤷🏻‍♀. Not worth it. Move along.

Dewms

time to move on fr

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