Why do some many people try to romanticize or glamorize pregnancy when it's actually brutal

There's a reason why they said a lot of women die while giving birth, nothing beautiful about that.

Here's the link to the article I was talking about
https://www.boredpanda.com/women-body-changes-during-pregnancy/?cexp_id=51764&cexp_var=45&_f=featured

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SW-User Best Comment

Yeah stop forcing women to think childbirth is their ultimate joy, i still remember a girl my age chastising me cuz i said i dont want to deal with any of that

Chickie · F

@SW-User Right! I had a few girls when I was younger that tried to coerced me into having sex (trying to set me setup) misery loves company and there's way too many people that have kids at a super young age that barely lived their lives they only way a guy is going to have sex with me is to rape my dead body.

There's nothing wrong if a person wants to be a parent I just feel like it's pushed way too much and it pisses me off that I get subliminal messages that I should get pregnant but the fact that a lot of people don't know these things are appalling.

BlueVeins · 22-25

It's risky and scary, but it brings some people great satisfaction, especially the results of it. I mean, climbing Mt. Everest can sure as hell kill you, that doesn't mean there's never any glory in it. IDK, if anyone tries to downplay the health risks, that's bad, but I don't remember hearing anyone do that.

Chickie · F

@BlueVeins I never said that there's no glory in it or that people shouldn't be happy. I'm taking about how it's always pushed (or at least on me when I don't want any) like it's something everyone has to do and they don't know about the health risks for it.

CelestiaStella · 22-25, F

True, it's hard. It's painful. It's dangerous. But that's the way it is. And I'm cool with that because my children make it all so worth it.

Chickie · F

@CelestiaStella that's what everyone says lol

CelestiaStella · 22-25, F

@Chickie if you had children, you'd get it. I know thats trite and all but yeah. Pregnancy and birth are hard on us. I don't deny that. But my point remains. My children being worth the pain and suffering doesn't excuse the pain and suffering but (to my mind) it does kind of forgive it.

Chickie · F

@CelestiaStella I never said it doesn't brings any parents joy or happiness or that it shouldn't if you are smart you would've known that from what I've said and all of not most of women in the article said that they don't regret it and some even had kids again despite that they will have to live with chronic illness for the rest of their lives.

Pfuzylogic · M

My first wife had a full term stillborn boy her first pregnancy. That devastated her emotionally. She had four after with me and I never heard her complain once. The first boy was a very trying birth that she delivered natural. His head came out flat as a pancake and blue but as soon as he got out he recovered and started crying. I said his name and he stopped crying and l and as he was on his stomach he raised his head and looked around. Any other child would have died from that birth. It took 13 hours of non productive labor.
She was exhausted but had the biggest smile you could imagine.

Chickie · F

@Pfuzylogic

She had four after with me and I never heard her complain once.

good for you but every woman is different but what I am talking about is also common.

iamelijah · 26-30, M

Idk about others. I think the idea of child that created by two people in love. I mean, I wouldn't lie I do have those feelings want to have kids maybe human insticts want to reproduce.

But yes, you're right. People should educating other people about harsh reality too. Raising kids is not cheap (now it sounds like raising a pet).

But I think death rate died from childbirth
rarely these days due to education and modern healthcare facilities that help them to labor. But of course, not everyone survived.

Chickie · F

@iamelijah it's super normal to want to have kids I am talking about stuff I just learned today. I am going to link the article I read this morning.

It's a lot of stuff about pregnancy besides the stretch marks and getting fat that a lot of people don't know.

caPnAhab · 26-30, M

That's true... It happens. The point is the baby... assuming they were trying to have a baby.

It's a labor of love I guess. I don't know. I've never made a baby and obviously never giving birth.

But I did just become an uncle for the first time last week. Everyone's excited. And no one died, thankfully.

CelestiaStella · 22-25, F

@caPnAhab it is very literally a labor of love.

Chickie · F

@caPnAhab it's very common for women to have their skeleton disfigured or have chronic pain for the rest of their lives. You're a man so of course you don't know how it feels and these women wanted babies and may do it again but that's the price they have to pay for it. It should be common knowledge if it isn't

caPnAhab · 26-30, M

@Chickie for sure. these are important things to know

Torsten · 36-40, M

possibly due to pregnancy creating new life

Chickie · F

@Torsten my point is, it's a apart of pregnancy and more common than people think.

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