Do you feel you are sexually experienced?

zonavar68 · 2026-03-24T20:34:16-04:00

Sexually Curious - Do you feel you are sexually experienced? Me - not really. Out of 10, I'd rate myself a 1 to 3... (11 replies).

Poll - Total Votes: 10

Never had sex - what is it again? 8-)

Low to no real adult sexual experience

medium to low adult sexual experience

high to medium adult sexual experience

very high to high adult sexual experience

higher than high (!) adult sexual experience

low to no pre-adult sexual experience

medium to low pre-adult sexual experience

high to medium pre-adult sexual experience

very high to high pre-adult sexual experience

higher than high pre-adult sexual experience

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Me - not really.

Out of 10, I'd rate myself a 1 to 3 and that's on a good day if I had to 'measure' my levels of sexual experience and confidence against some sort of accepted average levels.

I haven't had sex in 10 years, and even when I was getting any my sexual experiences have averaged about 2 to 3 times a year since I became sexually active in my mid 20's, so now I'm in my mid-50's that's less than 100 sexual experiences in 30 years. In that 30 years, I was in relationships for about 20 years total, so discounting the years I was single that's still only 4 to 5 times a year at best.

I don't count solo masturbation in this (that's an issue in itself for me re confidence).

Sounds funny thinking about it like that, because plenty of women have 'body counts' hitting into the 50 to 100 range. 8-) Mine is 3 and I don't see it advancing.

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swirlie · 31-35, F

Yes, but then again sex education for my sisters and I was based on the Scandinavian sex ed curriculum which starts sex ed at the age of 6, not the North American high school sex ed curriculum.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@swirlie I had no sex ed that I recall, but much of my primary school year experiences have been blocked/locked/erased from my long-term memory as far as I can tell as I have no recollection of any sex teaching in school, or from my parents, and I didn't have any interest in women until my mid-20's. Now in my late 50's I'm back to that state of being again. I started late, missed the bus, got left behind, and have never caught up.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@zonavar68
There is no such thing as getting left behind when it comes to sex!

The reason you can't recall any sex ed in primary school is because there wasn't any if you were raised in the USA. In high school, sex ed was barely touched on because of the strong evangelical resistance in America for their children to be exposed to sex or sex talk.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@swirlie I'm in Australia, and our ed system is probably more based on how it was done in the UK, though pretty similar re sex ed I'd say. The lack of guidance from my parents is more alarming that the formal schooling letting it down. I didn't have friends even back in primary and high school days - I've always been an introverted loner, so I had little to no social exposure that could have formed the foundation of sexual interest until I tried (and bombed out of) university.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@zonavar68
You didn't miss anything by bombing out of university, believe me!

Yes you're right, the Australian sex ed model is very similar to that found in UK and similar as well to that found in Canada.

I was born and raised in Canada to Scandinavian parents who raised my sisters and I the old fashioned Scandinavian way. Because the sex ed curriculum was poor at best in Canadian high schools, our mom taught us sex education at home from her old sex ed manuals she was issued as a student in high school in Sweden.

In our case, our sex ed began at age 6 despite living in Canada, but which started out with flower pollination, followed by an introduction to the mating habits of insects and then went from there with each passing year.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@swirlie interesting because plant pollination has no connection at all to human sex and reproduction. The so-called 'birds and the bees' still has never made any real sense to me.

swirlie · 31-35, F

@zonavar68
Of course plant pollination has no connection to human sex and reproduction, but it has everything to do with sex and reproduction of plants. In that regard, the sexual exchange is the same between plants and humans.

The birds and the bees was never intended to make sense. It was only a way of referencing human reproduction tactics during the learning phase for children and young adolescents.