What do you think about polyamory.
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VESTIGE · 41-45, F
@KelXtraAF You’re very sweet.💖 I’m interested in knowing how people come to be polyamorous. Are true loving relationships formed like in a monogamous one? When I think of polyamorous relations, my mind goes to “it’s cheating.” I don’t know how someone could be in love with so many at once. I think you might care for someone but there’s always going to be that one person who you might value more than another. There’s always that special one who will be your world and soul, the one you fall truly in love with. So I’m curious to understand how it ties together and how it works for someone who is polyamorous. Do they feel that same kind of love inside? Or is just a lustful thing and not wanting to be tied down to just one person?
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KelXtraAF · 31-35, F
@VESTIGE I think with me i just have a lot of love to give. I didn’t have the typical family dynamic and while my basic needs were met, my emotional and loving needs were never met. I know I’ve at least loved two people at once and I don’t know what I’d do if I had to pick so I can understand the confusion. I’ve never been in a poly relationship because my partners are usually jealous or want to be monogamous (though usually that means they want me monogamous and they can cheat). Maybe I’d be the one to get hurt. Who knows lol
VESTIGE · 41-45, F
@KelXtraAF Hey doll!
I can definitely understand that view as well ( about being monogamous while they cheat.) I often wonder if that's why some people choose to be poly-amorous. From what I've always gathered from them, they are so hurt by love or the idea of love. They are deep, beautiful souls, who are broken, and feel so disillusioned by what it means to feel love and give love. I truly believe that. I can sense that also with your comment. You had a good family structure, but something was missing for you. And sadly, a lot of us grow up with that lack. Humans are meant to be nurtured by others. We all want to feel validated, and if we don't get it from something or from somewhere, our souls start to wander and become lost because we want to be something greater than what we have known as the typical monotony of daily tasks in life. I always believe that there are those special few of us who have a certain void that our souls are tethered to, the soul void as I like to call it; where we don't even know how to describe what we feel. We feel a longing for something, some place, somewhere, that we aren't even sure exists. So we keep the lonely pace of our lives, never knowing or feeling anything except a moment's bliss from time to time of laughter, or something that we deem beautiful; anything to keep our souls or minds busy to keep the focus from our lost hearts. I have typically been monogamous in my past. I've given love, but have never received that same love in return; which resulted in heartbreak because the other parties just wanted flings. It's not their fault, it was mine, for getting too caught up in my ideas of how I wanted them to be. I shouldn't have expected too much. I look back now, and the ones that I didn't go for at the time, who went for me, those are the ones I should've given my attention to. I wonder if things could've turned out differently for me in life. Maybe I would've had stability. Now all I am doing is searching for answers to mysteries, only to be greeted with the ether of nothingness.
I don't mind jealousy or if someone demands my attention sometimes. It is cute to me, and shows that they care about you, or if someone is eyeing you. Although if they are doing it for all of the wrong reasons, then yeah, that could be bad. Only to feel more in control, and they don't really care about you, which results in cheating. It's very saddening. I'm sorry about that. : ( I Relationships, monogomous or Poly, are difficult. I find polyamorous folks tend to be the most deep individuals because they use it because they feel such a hatred and pain that can't be explained. I think a lot of the time it is a fascade for that pain. So they just give up on love. They do feel love though, I believe that. It's just from what I've witnessed. They are very fragile individuals for whatever the reason. : ( I hope that come what may girl, you can find what it is you're looking for in life. You go on and shine and be the light in this dark world! You're marvelous! : )
I can definitely understand that view as well ( about being monogamous while they cheat.) I often wonder if that's why some people choose to be poly-amorous. From what I've always gathered from them, they are so hurt by love or the idea of love. They are deep, beautiful souls, who are broken, and feel so disillusioned by what it means to feel love and give love. I truly believe that. I can sense that also with your comment. You had a good family structure, but something was missing for you. And sadly, a lot of us grow up with that lack. Humans are meant to be nurtured by others. We all want to feel validated, and if we don't get it from something or from somewhere, our souls start to wander and become lost because we want to be something greater than what we have known as the typical monotony of daily tasks in life. I always believe that there are those special few of us who have a certain void that our souls are tethered to, the soul void as I like to call it; where we don't even know how to describe what we feel. We feel a longing for something, some place, somewhere, that we aren't even sure exists. So we keep the lonely pace of our lives, never knowing or feeling anything except a moment's bliss from time to time of laughter, or something that we deem beautiful; anything to keep our souls or minds busy to keep the focus from our lost hearts. I have typically been monogamous in my past. I've given love, but have never received that same love in return; which resulted in heartbreak because the other parties just wanted flings. It's not their fault, it was mine, for getting too caught up in my ideas of how I wanted them to be. I shouldn't have expected too much. I look back now, and the ones that I didn't go for at the time, who went for me, those are the ones I should've given my attention to. I wonder if things could've turned out differently for me in life. Maybe I would've had stability. Now all I am doing is searching for answers to mysteries, only to be greeted with the ether of nothingness.
I don't mind jealousy or if someone demands my attention sometimes. It is cute to me, and shows that they care about you, or if someone is eyeing you. Although if they are doing it for all of the wrong reasons, then yeah, that could be bad. Only to feel more in control, and they don't really care about you, which results in cheating. It's very saddening. I'm sorry about that. : ( I Relationships, monogomous or Poly, are difficult. I find polyamorous folks tend to be the most deep individuals because they use it because they feel such a hatred and pain that can't be explained. I think a lot of the time it is a fascade for that pain. So they just give up on love. They do feel love though, I believe that. It's just from what I've witnessed. They are very fragile individuals for whatever the reason. : ( I hope that come what may girl, you can find what it is you're looking for in life. You go on and shine and be the light in this dark world! You're marvelous! : )