I Am Polyamorous

Hmm, well @nocturnalcuriosity since this is a post in a poly group thread I'll take that as a genuine question? So she's my gf because we love each other deeply, live together, share our lives, been together for close to 4 years, she cries if I go on trips longer than a few days, trust each other completely, lean on each other before anyone else, and of course also have sex. For people who are poly (and not saying everyone should be, not even that everyone can be(, relationships are additive not subtractive. Standard relationships are defined by what you are no longer allowed to do, poly relationships are defined by how much someone adds to your life and happiness. Poly people stay together out of love, we support each other going out because we love each other so much it gives us genuine joy to see our partners happy - no matter what is making them happy - and we are confident enough in our relationships that we don't really consider anyone outside of those relationships a threat. Again, gotta reemphasize that this isn't an attack on monogomy or saying 'hey, look how good we have it's - there is a Lot of work that goes into it. Just that for us this is worth it. And within this framework we are almost consistently happy with each other, as much so or more than many monogamous friends seem to be in their relationships. *shrug*. Does that address your question? (Seriously happy to answer more if you are curious)