I have literally one thing to say to the Lesbians at this point.

It is not OK to expect me to be able to turn off my heart because of the fact that you're a homosexual.
I don't chose who I am attracted to any more than you chose to be a lesbian.
I remember reading a heartless bitches article once about how Attraction wasn't a choice about so called nice guys.
so I'm left with this in response: Attraction isn't a choice for any human. [u]that includes men.[/u]
So to those who ghost if I ever own up to the crush because Gosh I'm a lesbian and that made me uncomfortable
I didn't choose this and emotional suppression is bad for your health so It was down to confessing it or Take a risk of Early cancer.
I don't mean to cause any of you discomfort I'm not laboring under any delusions I understand that you are what you are I can't change you you'll never want me back it's Cool I get it we're only ever going to at most be friends.

But don't ask me to never fall for you because I can't make that promise.
it doesn't matter if it's unrequited, I'm not mad.
I accept the futility of such emotions,'
I however cannot turn them off just because they'll go nowhere.

so my anger on this one stems from the reality that I accept lesbians are lesbian and nothing I could ever do will make them otherwise but I'm being pressured if I everrrr feel attracted to one to keep it to myself by the silent treatment delivered to me b the ones I had the audacity to confess ot my wil crush to .

To which makes me want to give them the bird because Excuse me? Fuck you for expecting me to be able to choose not to like you.

And more to the point if I did jjust because you're a lesbian? fuck you for expecting me to keep it to myself, that shit isn't good for your health.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3939772/

and your comfort should never be more important than the mortality risk. COPE With with the discomfort. You can, that's not too much to ask for. What is is expecting me to stay silent.

if it makes you so damn uncomfortable to know a man fancies you even though you don't like men that way... you can deal with that. I however, will Die earlier, if I keep that sort of shit to myself.

So if that's your expectation, your expectations need an attitude adjustment.

just because I tell you I like you either doesn't mean I Expect ANYTHING from you.

I'm just trying to get it off my chest.

Conclusions

Emotion suppression may convey risk for earlier death, including death from cancer. Further work is needed to better understand the biopsychosocial mechanisms for this risk, as well as the nature of associations between suppression and different forms of mortality.

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LeopoldBloom · M

Dude, it's fine to feel attraction to anyone. What isn't fine is acing on it when it's clearly not wanted. It's entirely possible that some gay men are attracted to you, but I'm sure you wouldn't want them to be pushy about it.

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@LeopoldBloom Admitting to it is hardly being pushy.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@LeopoldBloom Please don't judge others without knowing them.

I have known @PDXNative1986 for years. And he has stood up for the LGBTQ for as long as I have known him.

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@DeWayfarer For real. I mean, honestly I'm human and being human means occasionally feeling attracted to someone. I just wish women wouldn't ask me to keep that shit to myself if I felt that way- it's not good for me to keep it to myself. I'm a Straight Ally through and through but C'est la vie, as in such is life these things are inevitable and not a choice.

https://allpoetry.com/poem/18587518-Jesus--something-I-wish-women-understood-about-me.-by-Betweenkittensandriots/

LeopoldBloom · M

@DeWayfarer I'm not accusing him of being anti-LGBTQ, it's obvious that he's not. I'm just saying it's normal to be attracted to people. I remember being on a date with this girl, and at one point, I tried to hold her hand, and she told me she was a lesbian. OK, not a problem. But it would have been a problem if I'd kept going and told her I could "cure" her.

Same thing if you approach a married woman or a woman who isn't interested in you. You act like a gentleman and back off. But if the other person is offended that you were attracted to them at all before you knew anything about them, that's their problem.

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@LeopoldBloom I feel at a very deep level that it's not wrong to want someone that way, and, I'm a Noted dissident to the standards of my Society placed on men that tell us to be Stoic in the kind of way where we're not allowed to talk about our emotions, If your argument is essentially because I knew what she was and I still made a confession I did something "Immoral" I beg to differ, For one thing the context was an internet confession, so, she was fully able to run away if she wanted to. Easy escape routes readily available. On top of everything else, for one thing I did let her know it wasn't a problem that I accepted her as she was I knew I couldn't fix her that I wasn't going to try to do but despite all of that In spite of myself my emotions get the better of me and so yea there is some attraction, but, I promise not to pressure you in any way as a consequence and hope we can still be friends because I've got friends I'd drop everything to jump at the opportunity to be with in a romantic context. and we're good friends despite all of this.

it just drives me crazy. I look at some of those when harry met sally videos sometimes, I see his point but I just think well that would complicate things certainly but, It doesn't make it impossible.

I have a huge degree of self control over my body what I don't is my emotion so of course I can easily walk away from sex but not my feelings and some things if you're trying to tell me this was Terrible and awful that you should know but Emotional Suppression places humans at an elevated risk of early death and this comes out in study after study, so faced with attraction to a lesbian I can choose to stay silent about it and suffer a massive consequence for suppressing my feelings or I can take the gambit of making her somewhat uncomfortable for all of five seconds.

Forgive me but what I was suppose to do? Accept the cancer risk because The alternative was she might feel a bit awkward for a few split seconds if she knew the truth? For that reason I don't actually agree with any moral that says I should have shut up and said nothing. people can think me a villian and i'm just going to coldly reply yeah well that's your opinion.

I did, nothing immoral. I don't deserve to be punished for what I said.

LeopoldBloom · M

@PDXNative1986 I agree, you did nothing immoral and it sounds like you backed off after she told you she wasn't interested. That's how mature people deal with this.

PDXNative1986 · 36-40, MVIP

@LeopoldBloom Well honestly she chose to express this by way of the silent treatment, but yeah , I'm not going to bother harassing her into stopping, it isn't worth it to me anymore anyways.

LeopoldBloom · M

@PDXNative1986 Ghosting people is par for the course on the internet. I was talking with this woman I met on Experience Project for maybe 7 years, then one day she decided she was done and stopped responding. I guess people do that because they don't want confrontation and the end result is the same.