I told her I like her, she said it's fine it's okay, but now she is acting distant

So there's this girl I had a crush on for over a year ( I am a female btw) so 3 days ago I summed up all the courage and told her that I like her, she said ohhh when did it happen, what do you like about me ohhh it's okay it's fine it happens then I asked her if she is straight or bi or lesbian she said oh no I'm straight I said okay it's fine we're good, but all this time I know that she knows that I like her and I heard that she is bi but after all this she is acting a distant only talks when I talk to her, it's not like how it used to be what should I do please help me????? things have completed changed ever since I told her!!!! our friendship is completely destroyed now the only thing we exchange now is hellos that's it, even the hellos only happens if I say hello to her.... It's messed up I don't know what to do I think I ruined it, it is driving me crazy

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in10RjFox · M

Her orientation does not really matter as gender is dynamic and not static. You become a male since you like her female body and she allowing you to touch her body is only going to excite her.

The mistake you made is asking whether she is straight or bi or les. Wrong question for it's not easy to answer such questions at once.

Also some feelings are momentary and case to case basis.

What probably you can do is invite her to a swimming pool or beach so you can spend some time together. If jacuzzi or sauna attached all the more good. You would get a lot of opportunity to touch her and if she is okay you progress to offer to bath her.

Dignaga

@in10RjFox Bath her? How do you get to that if she is ghosting her?

in10RjFox · M

@Dignaga after she meets her for a date at the spa or pool.

Best if she takes her to a beach resort..

Dignaga

@in10RjFox Okay, so let's say I as a average guy am attracted to a supermodel who has no interest in me. I say she isn't interested in me, you say I should bath her. I say how..... she has no interest in me, you say take the supermodel who doesn't like me and have nothing to do with me..... to a beach resort. That is basically what you are saying? How do I get her to a beach resort if she doesn't want anything to do with me, much less give her a bath?

Lucky003 · F

@Dignaga 🥲yesss, thankyou.....

in10RjFox · M

@Dignaga There are always two sides to a coin. Similarly there are two ways to evaluate anything. One is the stupid way which you did, and another is the wiser way, which I have suggested.

What you do not know is even a super model at the end of the day is normal gal, who needs sex. Hope you may have heard how great actresses and models fall for their gym trainer or body guard etc. At the end of the day what matters is proximity. So first worry how you are going to get next to the super model and get to talk to her. And then let's worry about how you bring her to bed.

What you do not know is how gals are more intimate between them unlike guys. So what I have suggested is for the gal. Not for you.

Lucky003 · F

@in10RjFox things have completed changed ever since I told her!!!! our friendship is completely destroyed now the only thing we exchange now is hellos that's it, even the hellos only happens if I say hello to her.... It's messed up I don't know what to do I think I ruined it, it is driving me crazy

in10RjFox · M

@Lucky003 it happens.. and such things have happened to me many a times when we are upfront about things as we can't judge how they receive it.

It's like spoilt milk and no use brooding over it. So relax and it may be cooking in her mind as she may be taking time to construct herself.

She knows that you are leching on her but don't give her that feel.

Instead look for opportunities to compliment on her dress or even say dress not good, by a sign.

Try to make a passing comment like when are we meeting or can we go for a coffee or drive.

All the best.

Lucky003 · F

@in10RjFox okayyy thanks alot 🌟