Im tired of pretending

Im tired of pretending I’m not lesbian. I’ve tried. I put a lot of effort into my relationships. And I have loved them, but never in the same way as I thought I did. I always felt like there was something missing.

But I think back to the times I’ve been with women and how complete I’ve felt with them.
Im nervous to tell my parents though.

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Zeusdelight · 61-69, M

I would be nervous too, until I settled into owning my identity.

I am not questioning the authenticity of your identity, but it has taken you a while to work it out for yourself.

So now you have to not become comfortable with it, but comfortable with accepting it as you.

I'd wait until then before you start coming out. At the moment, you may not have answers to some questions yourself, much less some questions from people who are not you.

But please when the time comes, tell them yourself. My son used an intermediary, and as I said to him, it was his news to tell me, not to get someone else to tell me. That was the most difficult thing for me to accept of the whole situation.

His choice/ his innate nature was for him to understand and for me to accept as just another part of the evolving person he is.