Book Recs anyone?

@DeWayfarer oh wait these are awesome! 👌🏼 thanks for the recs!

Also I didn't know that whoever is in the middle means they're the dominant one the relationship. Is that always the case? New facts have been acquired today. Thank you 😁

@DeletedReality think of center placement this way. The center person in a three way mixed gender relationship has to be a switch.

The ones on the either side like each other yet the preference just isn't there. So it's the center who must decide switch one and when.

The act of decision is dominant thing to do. Now there are some odd exceptions. Yet I also find those odd ones are not really a relationship at all for any length of time.

Such are those that are mostly demanding voyeurs or BDSM type relationships. They all tend to switch around partners quite a lot so theirs no real relationship. They are pretty much threesome's for a few days at most.

The center being dominant therefore is a true polyamory type thing, not necessarily in other situations.

@DeWayfarer Ohh I see I see. I heard there's a difference between polygamy and polyamory? One is where the one on either side have feelings for the middle but not with each other, and next one is where all three have feelings for each other. Which one is which? Or do i got it all wrong? 😅

@DeletedReality read the two books I mentioned. The first is polyamory the second is polygamy.

Basically it's the numbers. Polyamory generally is more than three. Polygamy is three. Yet legally both are the same. The laws make no distinction.

Only "monogramy" is acceptable legally most everywhere. The genders involved do vary. Here homosexual relationships are legal yet that's still monogamy.

I was involved in a polygamy relationship of three for three months. Yet had the potential to be polyamory. She was seeing outside members though I never knew who.

Also there was a larger group I did know about. In fact all three of us were members of the larger group. Yet I was only involved in a cursory way. Within three months, she asked me to leave because of lack of honesty by the third male. She was still attempting to save her initial relationship. She later dumped him as well and became more involved in the larger group before she passed away. 😞

I really didn't know about any of this until long after I left. Yet she did live among the larger group as I learned after her passing.

The larger group was the closest I ever experienced with true polyamory. Kids and all! Yet again, my relationship with them was only cursory.

Yes, I did help a few financially! They didn't even know who, though it was fairly direct financial help. No putting it in a larger fund.

That actually was a fun thing to do for I actually got more involved with them and their kids. So I saw where the money went. And with a bit more intimate settings.

The trust was truly amazing.

@DeWayfarer sorry to hear about her passing. Hope you're coping well with what happened.

Also thanks for sharing your story. I've learned more about this relationship dynamics in the last 2 days than my whole life 😆 A whole new world has opened 😆

@DeletedReality you're welcome. Certain things I can not discuss in a open forum. Yet if you have non specific questions please feel free to ask.

My profile, photo albums and whiteboard are open to all. And the later two are not broadcasted to the whole site. Like with anything in your feeds.

PM's are also always welcome. Yet you'll have to initiate those. I rarely ever initiate PM's.

@DeWayfarer no problem. Share only things you're comfortable sharing, i already learned a lot either way :D

Oh cool, thanks. I've only been here since last night so I'm still learning how to navigate the site

@DeletedReality feel free to ask about the site as well. I have a number of "SW PSA" 's posted and have been here since 2016 close to when the site started.