I don’t know who needs to hear this, but stop trying to fix other people

Although I disagree that everybody who hurts you is evil (mostly.. there are exceptions lol), I do agree you cannot fix them. You can be supportive (which does not entail enabling or enduring mistreatment]), but that’s it. It’s not within your control/power to override their free will and ‘sculpt them’ into the potential you envision for them. No matter what words come out of their mouth, if they wanted to be the person you wish they were they’d already actively be working on it in a way that is clearly evident and progressing, not a miserable rollercoaster of ‘it’s complicated”.