The only issue I have with this statement is, someone could be thinking this exact thing about you. Someone could literally be thinking ‘why should I try and change this person, they’re evil’ about you. Are there evil people? Yes. Are most of the people others are trying to change evil? No. Some are legit evil. Most are just troubled because of their own past traumas. Can you change people? No. Sometimes you need to leave to take care of yourself but to denote them as evil is a long stretch.
Back in November if 2010 an old roommate called me heartless because I didn’t sit and listen to their problems. I did listen, I just didn’t agree with what they thought. A week later I finally was honest with them. When I was honest, they threatened to kill me. A week earlier you’d have thought I was the bad person. A week later you’d have known they were the bad person.
I’m not saying you need to stay around because they have past traumas. I’m saying that this person that threatened to kill me, even grabbed me by the neck and cocked their fist to punch me, was beaten by his father. The father that ultimately murdered his mother. It’s not an excuse for their behaviour, but it helps me understand that they have a lot of healing to do and I could forgive them despite not forgetting what they did.
