Husband interested in men

Been married for 25yrs and 3yrs ago i found out that my husband has been having chats online with gay men and using a fake facebook account. At the time he begged me not to leave him and told me he was just doing it for fun so i gave him another chance. 3wks ago i again discovered that he was again on gay dating sites and also placed an add looking for men where he advertised him as being a bottom/versatile.He still dont want to admit that he is interested in men but cant give me a reason for why is doing this. Is my husband gay and living a lie.Please help me to figure this out

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Bladey · M

It's not to say if he has a fantasy or even act out on it he is gay. He may be craving the same things you do, like sucking lollipop. Why should you have all the fun and if you like doing bj's, why should he not be allowed to like it too? It is wrong in marriage, even outside of a marriage relationship to have same-sex encounters, but we are all human and we all have our weaknesses and desires etc. Maybe he wants you to have a great time too, participating in mmf bi with him. He could have a medical issue too, like a heart disease which makes it hard for him to please you in bed, thereby him trying some roundabout way to make you happy as you will have needs as well, him trying to make up for his short-comings. There are many factors at play in his life. Maybe you should talk about it more, and be open more to each other's feelings. It is not easy to explain sexual urges, passions and lusts to one's wife.