Husband interested in men

Been married for 25yrs and 3yrs ago i found out that my husband has been having chats online with gay men and using a fake facebook account. At the time he begged me not to leave him and told me he was just doing it for fun so i gave him another chance. 3wks ago i again discovered that he was again on gay dating sites and also placed an add looking for men where he advertised him as being a bottom/versatile.He still dont want to admit that he is interested in men but cant give me a reason for why is doing this. Is my husband gay and living a lie.Please help me to figure this out

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Sigil · 56-60, M

In my opinion, you should ask yourself a few questions.

*Is he honest, even despite the potential consequences?
*Is he a person of integrity?
*Does he live to maximize every moment?
*Does he want to share those moments with you?
*Does he try to control his own vices?
*Is he trustworthy, even in the face of temptation?
*Is he a good parent/step-parent?
*Does he help provide a secure and loving home?
*Does he have a balanced disposition?
*If his character were attacked, would his character be easy to defend?
*Does his life have value?
*Does he have your back, no matter what?
*Is he a good man?

I’m not saying that this list of questions should make any decisions for you. It’s just something you might want to consider. Good luck!

turbineman40 · 80-89, M

@Sigil All good questions. Having lived through two divorces, of my mistakes, I still don't want anyone to have to endure the pain of a divorce. There is a lot of emotions going on in this situation that we don't know about. Good luck, Both of you will need it