Husband interested in men

Been married for 25yrs and 3yrs ago i found out that my husband has been having chats online with gay men and using a fake facebook account. At the time he begged me not to leave him and told me he was just doing it for fun so i gave him another chance. 3wks ago i again discovered that he was again on gay dating sites and also placed an add looking for men where he advertised him as being a bottom/versatile.He still dont want to admit that he is interested in men but cant give me a reason for why is doing this. Is my husband gay and living a lie.Please help me to figure this out

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ilovewatching · 61-69, M

If you figure it out let us know. I’ve done the same thing your husband has. My earliest sexual experience was being what I now realize was being sexually assaulted by older boys. Back in the day we didn’t discuss these things. I was totally confused by the experience at the time. I’m stuck with the attraction of sex with other men. The ability to anonymously connect online and act out any sexual fantasy is very attractive.

Quinton · 46-50, F

@ilovewatching i really don't know why he is doing whT he is doing . All i know is that he doesn't realize hw much damage he is doing to our marriage.

ilovewatching · 61-69, M

@Quinton I have at feeling he doesn’t know why he is doing it either.

Orpheus · 56-60, M

@ilovewatching I had a similar scenario and, at times feel confused by it. Would you mind if I PM'd you to discuss?