Husband interested in men

Been married for 25yrs and 3yrs ago i found out that my husband has been having chats online with gay men and using a fake facebook account. At the time he begged me not to leave him and told me he was just doing it for fun so i gave him another chance. 3wks ago i again discovered that he was again on gay dating sites and also placed an add looking for men where he advertised him as being a bottom/versatile.He still dont want to admit that he is interested in men but cant give me a reason for why is doing this. Is my husband gay and living a lie.Please help me to figure this out

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PhilDeep · 51-55, M

A lot of wankers (i.e. porn and masturbation addicts) switch to porn of opposite orientation to keep their dopamine hits high - goes for gay switching to straight porn too. Also online interactions and personas can seep into reality because (stupid) people start believing themselves to be the fake persona they create online. Put the two together and before you know it he'll be waving his arse around to be penetrated. Sorry... Porn's a slippery slope and can destroy relationships with shit like this. Read the book "Your Brain on Porn" for full details.

Quinton · 46-50, F

@PhilDeep you make sense!

ilovewatching · 61-69, M

@Quinton A lot of the women who are online are doing it for money. Others are looking for an emotional connection that I suspect your husband isn’t looking for.

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

@ilovewatching Yes but this is about his sexual engagement with other men 🤔

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

@Quinton I'm still sorry you're going through this. I could tell you a lot more because I have been supporting addicts / partners (mugs) of addicts for years now 😔

Quinton · 46-50, F

@PhilDeep sex addicts?

PhilDeep · 51-55, M

@Quinton Yes.

MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

@PhilDeep agreed