Dominance And Submission

I have a question from a fellow Dom he is considering making a lady his sub ,she has said that she is considering several Doms and has not submitted to any of them or a choice yet.
They talked along time yesterday and she became disrespectful to him he told her she would be punished for that she agreed to a punishment, he offered a sexual punishment and play telling her she will not stop till she has an orgasm , she said she couldn't do that because another Dom had punished her by making her insert a plug for to hrs and forbid her to play or have an orgasm . now he is wondering by submitting to the other Dom and having sex play with him does that mean she made a choice and chose the other Dom already as her new Dom .

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SubmissivelyMe · 46-50, F Best Comment

I believe that if she's expressed that she's poly and that she's exploring that, then a Dom should expect the possibility of conflicts. she would likely submit to just one Dom if he provided a strong level of control and is a natural Dom who wouldn't greatly lessen his dominant strength over time. she'd be suspicious of any relationship with a singular Dom if any Dom had been disinterested in her submission or had been severely lax in the past while simultaneously refusing to release her.

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe I agree with you , some times just happen and i think its hard to regain that trust for both the dom and the sub, i guess time will tell what happens . thanks for your reply Is there any reason why he didnt release her ?

SubmissivelyMe · 46-50, F

@olderuncle944 He said that he owns her and that he'd improve as her Dom, that he wouldn't allow her to search for another Dom as they wouldn't care for her.

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe was he telling her the truth ?

SubmissivelyMe · 46-50, F

@olderuncle944 He was telling the truth, but that is a subjective truth. There is evidence of this truth from experience, but there are many people in the world and some of them have to be good Doms. I use faith that my Dom will find me, not evidence, Sir.

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe Do you think you should honer his wished if he cares so much for you .has he improved any

SubmissivelyMe · 46-50, F

@olderuncle944 He's improved in the past 24 hours, Sir.

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe you think maybe something is bothering him more than he lets you know .
maybe your becoming more unavailable to him .

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe and are you still interesting in being his sub now,or looking for another dom?

SubmissivelyMe · 46-50, F

@olderuncle944 I'm seeking a Dom who is consistent and who may be able to see me more than once every few years.

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe very reasonable

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe I see so your saying you need more than one dom.or are you just exploring the concept

SubmissivelyMe · 46-50, F

@olderuncle944 I would need more than one Dom if I have a Dom, but a single Master would be okay

olderuncle944 · 70-79, M

@SubmissivelyMe so what are you really looking for just a master .