Apparently there are 'signs' that a person finds another person deeply attractive

But the trick would be to trigger those same or similar signs in the other person so the feelings are mutual not one-way, otherwise you end up in the 'friend zone' or worse (you're labelled a creep because you are unattractive to the other person).

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Fallflower · 46-50, F

just be yourself for best long term results

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@Fallflower I am hence why I'm choosing to be single after leaving my second ex in 2018, having no romance/intimacy/positivity since 2017 when our daughter was born and I became surplus to my ex's requirements, and no sex at all since 2016 when we were struggling through a mind-bending (and very expensive) IVF and egg donor process.

Fallflower · 46-50, F

@zonavar68 well I’m glad you’re no longer in a loveless situation.

zonavar68 · 56-60, M

@Fallflower Since I've had nobody to talk to in person about any of it and no other experiences (except my first ex, who cheated on me) I just prefer to let go of dating because I think I must be the problem and focus on wellbeing of my daughter and me. I'm neuro-divergent too, which adds complexity.

Fallflower · 46-50, F

@zonavar68 I don’t know if you’re the problem or not, but having 2 failed marriages doesn’t necessarily mean that. but agree we should try to know ourselves before inflicting ourselves on someone else.