I think I am asexual

I always figured I couldn't be "ace" because asexual people do not experience sexual attraction. But recently I discovered that a lot of ace people enjoy erotic fanfic and that sort of thing. As long as it's someone else, not them. I think that's me.

I sometimes find myself wishing I was in a sexual relationship. In theory. But any time anyone expresses interest, I immediately shut down and feel extremely uncomfortable. I tell myself things like, "I wouldn't want to subject another person to my body." But if I'm honest, I think that's me projecting my own feelings onto someone else.

2024 EDIT: I have come to think this label doesn't really fit me. I don't think it was wrong to try it on for a time. Everything I said here are still issues I struggle with. But I am slowly learning to work past them. Some days are better than others.

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SW-User

I think it's a hard thing to define, and all the various subtypes of asexuality make it confusing. As a result, I used to identify as a hetero-romantic demi-ace, but after looking at all the new definitions of asexuality, I think maybe I'm just a hetero demisexual. It's a simpler definition and takes much less explaining.

ShadowSister · 46-50, F

@SW-User I have a lot of friends that identify as demisexual. That seems to be a pretty good catchall as well. Ultimately labels are there to help us on our journeys, not dictate to us how we ought to live. I have started resonating with the microlabel "aegosexual," which is someone who is turned off by the thought of themselves in a sexual experience.

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