I Am An Asexual

It's been a strange one realising my sexual identity at this age. I always wondered why I was never interested in sex or dating as a teen when others my age were seemingly possessed.

I can feel love and attraction to people, but perhaps not attraction by the standards of others. For instance I found my previous partner pretty and physically attractive, but I didn't look at her and think she was sexy until I'd formed an emotional bond. I can enjoy sex and have a lot of it, but ultimately I'm just not interested in it nor am I driven by it.

I feel like a lot of people don't understand that, and tbh I didn't for over a decade either. It is a spectrum as some are repulsed by sex, but we're not loveless robots who don't care or love people like some think.

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SW-User

Sometimes i think I'm asexual but other times maybe I just never had good sex?? 😔 so lost

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@SW-User I think that's why it can take a while to figure it out individually. Did you not enjoy the sex you had? did you feel emotionally connected to them?. Disinterested over many years is a good indicator.

SW-User

@Ryannnnnn i felt emotionally connected, but it was still a struggle.

Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M

@SW-User Ah right. Did they do a lot of foreplay and make you feel relaxed enough?. I know the first few times for me were pretty uncomfortable even though I felt connected to them.

SatanBurger · 36-40, F

A lot of people are stuck in limited belief systems so they won't understand.

[quote]I feel like a lot of people don't understand that, and tbh I didn't for over a decade either.[/quote]

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