I Am Asexual

All my friends have boyfriends and there's so many happy couples. I really do envy them always having someone by your side, someone to cuddle, to stay with on lonely nights. They seem to fill a gap friends just can't quite cover. I want that I really do but you can't date someone without first liking someone. I think I always knew I felt differently than other girls. I never really cared about guys. Ever since I learned about aromanticism and asexuality I just assumed that was the closest fit but lately I'd been looking into it and I thought maybe I was just gay. At least then I'd have someone right? I pretty much knew I didn't like guys but other girls didn't seem like a bad option to at least experiment with. One of my friends even told me they had a crush on me. I feel like I have a crush on them too sometimes but other times when I really stop and think about it, it feels a little forced. Do I really like her or am I just not willing to accept the fact that if I never feel anything for anyone I'm doomed to be alone?

GlassDog · 41-45, M

Strawberry: The's much more difficult to answer. Of the people I know who'd class themselves as asexual, none of them want romance. The fact that you like the idea of it might mean you pursue it. You should also remember that our brains don't stop developing until our early twenties and so you're not yet a finished article. You're still becoming who you'll end up being.