I Hate Mothers Bringing Older Boys In The Women's Locker Room
I've always hated it when mothers bring their school-age sons into the women's locker room.
I am tired of the ogling, comments and embarrassment.
And dare you make a comment to the mother of an 8 or 9-year old boy or, worse, complain to the gym's management.
About four years ago at a public pool, I quickly stepped out of the shower, wrapped myself in only a towel, stormed right out into the lobby still dripping wet and complained to the young clerk at the front desk that a school-age boy of perhaps 9 or 10-years old was in the women's locker room and "wasn't just starring at me but even making rude comments about my naked body."
The boy's mother, who had followed me to purposely start an argument, shot back quite loudly, "If you're that uptight about it, maybe you should at least trim it a little."
That generated snickers from not only the male teenage desk clerk but from the dozen-plus people within earshot who quickly started to gather around us.
The boy himself then loudly commented about everything he had seen as the people around us started to chuckle.
After I composed myself, I turned to the now grinning clerk and said "See what I mean? The little brat should be kicked out!"
That angered the boy's mother all the more, who scolded me saying, "Don't you dare call my son a brat, you little hussy."
Then quickly and with a strong grip she grabbed both sides of my towel, pulled me around to face her, my back now to the desk clerk, and demanded, "Now you apologize to my son right now. Or else."
The people who had gathered around whispered and snickered. Some pulled out camera phones but no one said a word. They were content to let it all play out however it would.
I grabbed the woman's wrists but quickly summed up my predicament and realized there was no way I'd retain the towel if she was serious in denuding me.
And to show me she was indeed serious, she pulled at the towel so that it parted open in the back. I heard snickering from behind me, no doubt from the teenage male desk clerk.
Swallowing my pride, I turned to the grinning boy and said, "I'm sorry. I apologize."
She then said for me to repeat, "...for being such rude a little bitch."
I repeated, "For being such a rude little bitch."
She then asked for my name.
"Becky," I relied.
"'Becky' what?" she demanded.
"Becky Romero," I answered.
"Say your name again and tell us what are you," she demanded.
Looking down at the floor, I did as I was told.
"I am Becky Romero and I'm... and I'm a rude, little bitch."
She then spun me around to face the desk clerk as I let go of her wrists to concentrate instead on holding the back of my towel closed, even as it began to slip dangerously low in front.
She grinned and then whispered into my ear.
I gasped, but complied.
Trying to avoid direct eye contact with the grinning teenager at the desk, I repeated to him what I was told to say.
"I'm Becky Romero and I want to report that... that I am a rude, little bitch and ask that I be immediately kicked out of this gym for causing an unnecessary disruption."
A downward tug my towel that nearly exposed my nipples encouraged me to say the rest.
"I should be told to wait in the parking lot for someone to bring me my clothes and car keys," I said.
The grinning clerk merely shrugged and said, "O.K. Sounds good," and he pointed to the exit. "I'll bring them to you in about ten minutes. You wait out there."
Apparently satisfied, the woman then released the grip on my towel.
Blushing badly and feeling like a complete fool and doormat, I then only compounded by embarrassment ten fold when, while trying to slowly back up away from the desk in an effort to rush back to the locker room instead of heading to the parking lot wearing just a towel, I instead tripped backwards over a bench behind me, flopped over it and landed on my back with my legs apart and dangling up on the bench as everyone quickly gathered and hovered over me to see if I was OK.
Fortunately the only wound was to my pride, especially given that the boy was quick to pick up my fallen towel and run off with it. Not that even being given the towel back would have mattered any more by that point.
School-age boys should not be in the women's locker room. Period. If there's no family changing room then the mothers or guardians of those boys should either have an older male with them who can take the boy in the men's locker room or they should STAY HOME.
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What about older girls and women in the men's locker room? I've heard that female journalist are permitted to enter men's locker rooms but male journalist aren't permitted to enter women's locker rooms.
What about older girls and women in the men's locker room? I've heard that female journalist are permitted to enter men's locker rooms but male journalist aren't permitted to enter women's locker rooms.
You seem to be talking about collegiate or professional sports teams and what access they give to journalists. Sports teams where locker rooms are more than just a place to change clothes, shower or use the toilet. Sports teams with weight rooms, video rooms, coaches offices, etc.
@beckyromero That doesn't answer my question about older girls going into men's locker rooms, in the same way that you're complaining about boys in the women's locker room.
As for professional sports people's lockers rooms, why should female journalists be permitted to enter men's locker room if male journalists are not permitted to enter women's locker rooms? It should be the same for both sexes.
That doesn't answer my question about older girls going into men's locker rooms, in the same way that you're complaining about boys in the women's locker room.
As for professional sports people's lockers rooms, why should female journalists be permitted to enter men's locker room if male journalists are not permitted to enter women's locker rooms? It should be the same for both sexes.
I'm not complaining about what sports teams and their leagues allow or disallow.
I'm not complaining about what sports teams and their leagues allow or disallow.
I'm not suggesting you are. I'm just asking your opinion on girls in men's locker rooms in general (at the local gym or elsewhere) and the apparent double standards regarding journalists in the opposite sex's locker rooms.
I'm just asking your opinion on girls in men's locker rooms in general (at the local gym or elsewhere) and the apparent double standards regarding journalists in the opposite sex's locker rooms.
I don't see a problem with having a "privacy period" for both men and women athletes.
But the statement that male reporters aren't allowed into the locker rooms of professional female athletes is inaccurate.
Didn't you read the comments on that article? It's clear there is a double standard in effect.
The only thing that's clear is that some people commenting think there is a double standard in effect. None of whom, apparently, who are male reporters complaining about the supposed lack of access.
@beckyromero It's not clear whether those commenting are reporters, athletes or just members of the general public. Some do make reference to official policies though.
I'm in the UK and we have similar double standards here although possibly not as widespread.
I'm in the UK and we have similar double standards here although possibly not as widespread.
There are no throngs of male reporters in the U.S. complaining about not getting to see naked female athletes. Reporters of both sexes are granted similar access to the sports league they are covering. Some coaches may get upset about a tough loss and ban all reporters for a short period. And some male athletes may not care about being seen naked. If some female sports leagues have devised policies to give their athletes a little more privacy before letting any reporters into the locker room, I don't see a problem with that. The point the article made is that they are not discriminating against male reporters.
The myth that male reporters aren't given access to interview female athletes is just that - a myth.
@beckyromero I'm aware of double standards in the UK so, when I hear of some in other countries that fit the pattern, my instinct is to believe them.
I've heard about these discriminatory policies from various sources, including comments from athletes and journalist so I had no reason to doubt the veracity of the allegations. You seem pretty sure they are false. Can you tell me what you base that belief on? Also, do you know what gave rise to this apparently widespread belief?
I've heard about these discriminatory policies from various sources
Where's the discrimination? You're the one making the charge. Can you back it up with news accounts from legitimate sources?
I've heard about these discriminatory policies from various sources, including comments from athletes and journalist so I had no reason to doubt the veracity of the allegations.
Can you point to an article someplace in recent years where a named male reporter in the U.S. himself is complaining about not being given the same access to a female athlete(s) as a female reporter?
@beckyromero As I said, I've heard about the policies. I'm not making the allegation myself, it's just that I had no reason to doubt its veracity as I know those types of double standards exist in the UK. I'm still not sure what the facts are.