Why does this older man keep calling me a girl?

I work with this older man and tbh I don't like him that much, I have noticed something he keeps calling me girl,
Like well done girl, good girl, and such, and I feel like I cringe like I feel that i am a woman not a girl,
Is this normal? Should I stop working with him?

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Heartlander · 80-89, M

Have you tried using phrases like "good boy", "at-a boy", or "little boy" with him?

Carissimi · F

Why would you do that? The guy probably means no harm, he’s just from an older generation, and she most likely looks very young. I thought someone of your age would have more understanding. @Heartlander

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@Carissimi If for no other reason, just to lighten the conversation style and fish for a sustainable discourse level. There's a bit of difference between working "with" someone Vs "for" someone. "with" suggests appropriate and agreeable for everyone.

Personally, I would never refer to someone, whether a coworker or my employee with a phrase like "girl" or "boy" except maybe in a "good girl", "good boy" or "at-a girl/boy" light hearted expression, suggesting that they are deserving of praise.

Carissimi · F

How do you know he’s not using it that way? @Heartlander

Heartlander · 80-89, M

@Carissimi

I don't. Just that a bit of light hearted nudging may help force the issue to awareness.

There are some who may not want to know the names of their coworkers, or maybe they may be socially inhibited, or prefer self confinement; and referencing others with "girl" or "boy", etc. may be their way to keep a distance.

A little light hearted nudging would help either melt the ice or provide some insight.