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caccoon I know. We definitely have some of the same relationship insecurities from past traumas (thanks moms and dads).
There are people that are too clingy for anyone, it's true. But maybe it's just uncomfortable right now because of trust issues, insecurity, etc. It's possible to tell him to move slower, and assure him that you want to continue to getting to know him and forming a stronger trust and familiarity before getting serious and that that could take a long time for you. If he can't respect that well then that's a complication itself because respect and boundaries are super important.
Just something to think about.
It's actually a miracle that I'm still with my boyfriend! I did try and break up with him three months after getting together and I was really sad about it, ended up not happening lol then found out we were pregnant. Having a child together (and being in another country illegally practically lmao) made a big difference but I've still tried to break up since then more times but it just never happens 🤣 and I'm glad. I'm actually more in love with him now than ever before, we have been through a lot and he's put up with all my stuff and he's still here. It's kind of amazing.
Now I've strayed off topic haha. 😆
I guess it's just that eventually if you want a relationship to last, you're going to have to be uncomfortable and want to run away and be alone because that's what you're comfortable with. We have been hurt so badly before by people we trusted and that were supposed to protect us that it's hard to ever love and feel safe loving with someone like that again.
But again, he has to respect your boundaries and be on the same page because it's new. He doesn't know know all this about you so he doesn't know what you need. Inform him. ❤
