I think I need to end things with this guy

He is so sweet but I am feeling suffocated and it's affecting my work.

He's telling his friends and parents about me and we've only been on like five dates. He shows up at market. He wants to come over all the time.

I have kinda indicated these things to him but it's too easy for me to want to be around him.

I feel pressured and I don't wanna screw up my new job or neglect it, or my animal or plant friends.

It really sucks but he is TOO intense.

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ThirstenHowl ·

I have kinda indicated these things

The word "kinda" gives me pause. Does this mean you actually had an explicit, direct, unambiguous conversation, so there's no way the guy cannot fully acknowledge your thoughts on the matter. Or did you fall back on that timeless and widespread but totally unhelpful legacy practice of just vaguely dropping "hints"? If it's just hints, he won't ever change if he doesn't really fully understand that it's too much and too soon, whether that is with you or with someone else.

caccoon · 36-40

@ThirstenHowl I have told him that things are going too fast for me, and told him I would like to go slow

I told him that I would like to see him once or twice a week, which I can see he wants to push

I will have a more explicit conversation with him at 6pm today in person