I think I need to end things with this guy

He is so sweet but I am feeling suffocated and it's affecting my work.

He's telling his friends and parents about me and we've only been on like five dates. He shows up at market. He wants to come over all the time.

I have kinda indicated these things to him but it's too easy for me to want to be around him.

I feel pressured and I don't wanna screw up my new job or neglect it, or my animal or plant friends.

It really sucks but he is TOO intense.

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SwampFlower · 31-35, F

Booo I hit the wrong react.

If you’ve communicated you don’t like it and he’s still bringing this intensity that’s a red flag to me

caccoon · 36-40

@SwampFlower I think so too 😫 I feel like he wants to respect my boundaries but won't

When I told him I wanted to see one another just once or twice a week he was like, "but can I still bring you food during the week randomly?"

Which is so sweet but also it's exactly not what I'm asking for

EarthlingWise

@caccoon If you don't want to see him often, you're not as hooked on him as he is.

caccoon · 36-40

@EarthlingWise there's also such a thing as being unhealthily attached

EarthlingWise

@caccoon Well, people are different, but love is generally quite addictive.

caccoon · 36-40

@EarthlingWise my statement still stands

I am not in love after five dates

EarthlingWise

@caccoon Yep, this sounds true, and it's nothing wrong, of course.