Just ew, people

I got a DM from some guy who was proposing I be a type of Stepford wife that will be pampered and cared for as long as I am subservient and allow them to constantly spank me.

Gross.

Why would someone think that would remotely interest me?

I am not an object.
I hate spanking.
I am not submissive.
I don't need a master/owner/handler.
I don't need someone to provide all decisions and thoughts to me.

The whole concept is disgusting. I don't care if that sounds like heaven to someone else. That is absolute hell to me.

Yeah, I want to be cared for in various ways, but I need to have control of my life, things that happen, or don't happen. I firmly believe in the word no. I don't care what one is will to give me (also gross. Do me a favor and don't gift me servitude. That's a shitty gift.), it isn't worth not being in control of my life.

If I trust you, i will work with you to make sure we are both satisfied. If i love you, i will turn over the world to see you happy. If you feel the way to get that is to imprison me, you are wrong.

Why are men like this?!

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Northwest · M

I'm sure there are men out there who fit the description.

But I believe most men are not.

Just as most women would not accept this kind of arrangement, but some would.

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Northwest I have no problem with consenting adults who want these things. That is not my gripe.

My gripe is that this absolute rando decided that I needed to hear his offer, even though we have never interacted. I had no idea this creature existed until I looked in my inbox.

If we had been having an ongoing conversation, and he said, "hey, just putting this put there..." yeah, it would still be repulsive, but at least there has been some rapport.

What possessed him to think, "This woman sounds like I have what she needs!"? Was it just scattershooting, messaging several vitcims in hopes someone on the bottom of the barrel has decided they don't have any other options?

I guarantee no woman wants that from some completely unknown.

Northwest · M

@FoxyQueen Poisson distribution in probability. The formula is: P(X = k) = (e^(-λ) * λ^k) / k!

For a large enough sample, the normal distribution is a steep hump, and a handful of outliers.

The guy is probably not going to end up with any takers if the audience is his church group.

But this is SW (and he's probably doing it elsewhere as well), so if the outliers percentage is 1, then if he sends 100 DMs, he significantly increases his odds.

It has absolutely nothing to do with you.

I can guarantee you that at least one woman would respond positively to something like this, and I'm saying it based on a conversation I had with an ex. She responded to an online ad, from a total stranger, asking for a mistress to be his submissive, someone he can spank, humiliate, and dominate.

The guy apparently had no redeeming values. I was disappointed she did something like that.

Nikki921 · F

@FoxyQueen it’s not a big deal. It happens

FoxyQueen · 51-55, F

@Nikki921 Great! I'll make sure to give them your name to DM in the future! Problem solved!

Nikki921 · F

@FoxyQueen why would they need my name when they can see it on here?