I'd Rather Get To Know You Than Small Talk

I like it when someone says 'how are you?', they actually care to know, and not only a formality to "break the ice" with.

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SWisGoingWoke · M

A true peeve of mine...but how do you ask "How are you?" and let the hearer know that you aren't being superficial?

Madeleine · 41-45, F

I think we should give them full attention when they reply, and if they were close friends, we should be able to see through their eyes if they're doing well or not.

Lilmissassypants · 51-55, F

I normally throw them a curve ball and say"how are you? The family? Kids?"

SWisGoingWoke · M

@Madeleine: True that. I've even put my hand on their arm, or hand depending on the situation, and repeated the Q in a slightly different way. Sadly, many people don't believe that anyone really wants to endure the truth of how they are.

@Lilmissassypants: Good twist! Maybe even inquire about some situation you're aware of in their life. :)