if people avoid you and outcast you, what can you do

i've felt that vibe from people in general for a long time now and indeed tonight i went a long to a social venue at the local community centre, where i felt ignored and avoided by the 24 people who also attended....it was a meal evening...and i went and sat down at a table and everybody else sat at the tables with each other...me sat on my own, except for this old irish fella named 'gordon' who came and sat with me, i think he felt sorry for me.....there were some nice brunette women who showed up tonight but they blanked me, ignored me and went to sit at a table where the others were sat....and me at a table on my own with this irish man, who i perceived felt bad for me.

there were some other people there tonight who mingled with everybody there, but flat out ignored me.,..like i wasn't there????!! ive always felt an unfriendly vibe from people.

anyway, if you are treated like this by people and feel like a social pariah, what do you do? i will NOT jump through hoops to be accepted.

i'm in my mid 40s now and have no support system apart from my elderly mother and father who live far.

Gusman · 61-69, M Best Comment

Do what I done. Divorce myself from society and get on with living. Doing all the things I want to do. I do not need people to entertain me and am very self sufficient.
If you are craving company then go sit at a table with people. They will not get up and move.

twiigss · M

I would say, when you're at an event like that, try to talk to people and form relationships. That way you have others who can be part of support for you 🙂