Is this true? To a degree, generally speaking?

@OogieBoogie I think it's because people may be relying on husbands to meet all the needs instead of other friendships.
I can't even imagine my husband attempting all that or trying to

@Justmeraeagain oh i was watching something on this just recently: how due to lack of community, we now put massive amounts of varying emotional relationshipal responsibilties on our partners.

We put them on duty to be everyhing:
Friend
Confidant
Therapist
Sounding board
Moral adjudicator
Lover
Co-parent
....plus all that comes with shared work and responsibilities.

It's a lot.
That's why traditional "role" descriptions need to be broken up into 'abilities' - what each can do, share the load AND resposibilty.

And give each partner personal space to go do their own thing.

In saying that, some people work really well with traditional role duties, they just click into it

....but many dont - it doesn't suit them and it can cause too much stress and friction. And then jealsousy and doubt and envy can fuck eveything up.

I think videos like hers just "typify" people, when we arent all typical🤷‍♀

All this "cliché crap needs to go.

@OogieBoogie I think both partners have to communicate what they're comfortable with and if they're not they need to be honest about it
But nobody can bring a long list of demands and wants and say you better do this .
Nobody's perfect and nobody meets every expectation.

@Justmeraeagain I think its so socially ingrained in our psyche, that when children or marriage happen - the role shift is this 'unspoken' expectation.

Suddenly you are not a couple anymore, you are man and wife or mum and dad....and some people think that means instantly a different dynamic.

Its silly.
Every relationship is different.
Not all women are natural mothers and great cooks, and not all men are career driven and 'fixit' masters.

I agree, independent communcation bereft of "what everybody else does" is really important.

@OogieBoogie I think accepting each other being kind to each other are more important than the roles that you play... I have never made it my business to tell another couple how to handle their relationship it's none of my business.