What are you supposed to say to people when something horrible happens?

A kid I go to school with, his brother has a brain tumour. 😪
I don't talk to him much, and when he talks to me it's never nice. But he's sad and I want to say something. I just don't know what or how.
If my brother was sick, I'd be very sad as well.

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Fluffybull · F

It's hard to know what to say sometimes. I prefer finding something practical I can do for someone, that will help. But that might be difficult in this sort of situation. 😟

Manfredthemanic · 16-17, M

@Fluffybull He is just sad and I want to help. It's his twin brother.
I just don't want to make things worse. Maybe I could give them both something? I don't know.

Fluffybull · F

@Manfredthemanic If he's struggling with work at school because he's upset about his brother, maybe you could help with homework? Do you have any classes together?

Manfredthemanic · 16-17, M

@Fluffybull I think my school is already helping him with his schoolwork, but I could ask him. I just don't want to sound mean for asking.

Fluffybull · F

@Manfredthemanic I don't think you'd sound mean but you're probably right about school helping him. Maybe just having you listening to him helps?

Manfredthemanic · 16-17, M

@Fluffybull I will try. I want him to know he has someone to talk to when his brother isn't at school.