I Have Anger Management Issues
I try counting to ten, like my counselor suggests, but I really only use that time to pick where I'm going to punch someone. They're usually laid out by the time I get to 8.
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annie616pop · 26-30, F
@HellaBrooksy
Hmm, did you change your name from 'Brooksy' to 'HellaBrooksy'? If so, it appears that the visit from the clown is doing some good because you are concerned about managing anger. Good for you!
While I obviously don't know your particular circumstance let me share what one of my martial art instructors imparted a few years back on the subject of anger at an advanced black belt class.
"Anger or it's brother, 'rage,' has more to do with yourself and how you perceive the situation than the situation itself. Anger at a rage level is a statement: 'this threatens me so much I want to kill it, totally eradicate it so it never comes around to threaten or disturb me ever again!' This is the reactive state of a child. Since you all have been trained with numerous ways to dispatch someone quickly and efficiently you can see the problem you are going to have if you let this child rule your behavior.
It's perfectly normal to feel angry if you feel like you or others you care about have been threatened, mistreated or wronged. You might have heard of the advice to 'take a deep breath and count to ten.' It's excellent advice to apply if you are normally a calm person. It's not such good advice if you find yourself in a pattern of responding to conflict or irritation with anger or rage. Why? Because the technique has not taught you what you really ought to be working with....and that is developing the presence of a calm center, a thinking and observing center, no matter what the stimulus might be. In other words seeking to understand who you are first versus analyzing or blaming situations or people outside of you.
A warrior with such a center has a better chance of getting through moments of danger, living longer, and with less stress. This is something your parents and kin know as Marines. This is something we will work on this week and hopefully you will continue working on the rest of your life."
*end*
My only other thought besides this, HellaB, is that if you have a son, then it is your nature that the kid picks up on and most likely will emulate into his adolescence and adulthood. Something to think about, no?
Hmm, did you change your name from 'Brooksy' to 'HellaBrooksy'? If so, it appears that the visit from the clown is doing some good because you are concerned about managing anger. Good for you!
While I obviously don't know your particular circumstance let me share what one of my martial art instructors imparted a few years back on the subject of anger at an advanced black belt class.
"Anger or it's brother, 'rage,' has more to do with yourself and how you perceive the situation than the situation itself. Anger at a rage level is a statement: 'this threatens me so much I want to kill it, totally eradicate it so it never comes around to threaten or disturb me ever again!' This is the reactive state of a child. Since you all have been trained with numerous ways to dispatch someone quickly and efficiently you can see the problem you are going to have if you let this child rule your behavior.
It's perfectly normal to feel angry if you feel like you or others you care about have been threatened, mistreated or wronged. You might have heard of the advice to 'take a deep breath and count to ten.' It's excellent advice to apply if you are normally a calm person. It's not such good advice if you find yourself in a pattern of responding to conflict or irritation with anger or rage. Why? Because the technique has not taught you what you really ought to be working with....and that is developing the presence of a calm center, a thinking and observing center, no matter what the stimulus might be. In other words seeking to understand who you are first versus analyzing or blaming situations or people outside of you.
A warrior with such a center has a better chance of getting through moments of danger, living longer, and with less stress. This is something your parents and kin know as Marines. This is something we will work on this week and hopefully you will continue working on the rest of your life."
*end*
My only other thought besides this, HellaB, is that if you have a son, then it is your nature that the kid picks up on and most likely will emulate into his adolescence and adulthood. Something to think about, no?
annie616pop · 26-30, F
@HellaBrooksy
"This was truly just a joke though"
Hmmm, ok, I admit you got me. Hooked me like a fat young trout seeing a fly lure skipping on a pond surface. The southwestern Indians and Carl Jung have a name for folks like you, HB: "Trickster". In its beneficial guise, a trickster uses deceit or duplicity, such as the use of a false persona to teach a life lesson. I'm first to admit that with my young years I'm so wet behind the ears I practically have gills growin' back there so I'm easily roped in to seein' myself as a wise ol' crone rockin' on the front porch and settlin' feuds among the kin with some good stories.
Thanks for the heads up. You're not likely me to see me pokin' around your briar patch any time soon in the future.
Y'all take care now!
"This was truly just a joke though"
Hmmm, ok, I admit you got me. Hooked me like a fat young trout seeing a fly lure skipping on a pond surface. The southwestern Indians and Carl Jung have a name for folks like you, HB: "Trickster". In its beneficial guise, a trickster uses deceit or duplicity, such as the use of a false persona to teach a life lesson. I'm first to admit that with my young years I'm so wet behind the ears I practically have gills growin' back there so I'm easily roped in to seein' myself as a wise ol' crone rockin' on the front porch and settlin' feuds among the kin with some good stories.
Thanks for the heads up. You're not likely me to see me pokin' around your briar patch any time soon in the future.
Y'all take care now!
Brooksy · 41-45, M
@Annie, I did change it for the moment for a friend. I'll be Brooksy again soon and I was the clown, waiting outside JarJar's door.
Thank you very much for your thoughtful guidance. This was truly just a joke though. Many of my stories are. Most folks are used to me by now. You will be soon too. You were spot on about my kids. I do like to set a good example in regards to reacting to hardship.
Thank you very much for your thoughtful guidance. This was truly just a joke though. Many of my stories are. Most folks are used to me by now. You will be soon too. You were spot on about my kids. I do like to set a good example in regards to reacting to hardship.
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
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DonotInboxMe · 26-30, F
Brooksy · 41-45, M
Yeah, I did. I just meant that I don't want you to have to answer for our conversations to somebody. I didn't know if you were going to have to or not.
Brooksy · 41-45, M
You know if you continue to be this nice to me, I could always discontinue the drinking of the co-workers coffee creamer, if you like
Brooksy · 41-45, M
Something I never asked you, I'm not interrupting anything you got going on with somebody else am I?
Brooksy · 41-45, M
That's right, whatever you do, do not be proactive. Being prepared straight up sucks.
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
No, i dont plan that far ahead...i need to mow the lawn...crap its looking bad
Brooksy · 41-45, M
*tips hat* you too ma'am, but you're always welcome 'round here now.
Brooksy · 41-45, M
I see you're leaving. If I don't talk to ya, buenes noches mi amiga.
Brooksy · 41-45, M
Have you decided to just do Netflix tomorrow for your day off?
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
I dont think conversations about mankini is going to upset anybody
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
Hell no, i want you to gulp that creamer down until you get diabetes
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
It would only hurt if you started teabagging everybody
Brooksy · 41-45, M
Haha! Should I add that to the list of services I provide?
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
Yes, be sure to provide your teabagging services with a 30% groupon
Brooksy · 41-45, M
You cost me a month with a west coast user name 😕
Brooksy · 41-45, M
If they saw my reconstructed ball sack, it would.
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
I dont think so...you know i have a spouse right??
Brooksy · 41-45, M
All's well. Stop apologizing. You okay?
Brooksy · 41-45, M
Alrighty, JarJar. Got my son's recital tonight.
You're doing it all wrong @Brooksy
JarJarBoom · 41-45, F
Yes, just doing last minute things
Brooksy · 41-45, M
Am I not using the time wisely, Epic?