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I Hate My Ex Husband

Having to share your children with someone you hate is so infuriating. All I want is to cut him out of our lives. I'll never be able to do that and he's going to be a part of my life until I die. That's terrifying. If he was at least a good dad I would find it so much easier 😤

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Paliglass · 41-45, F

He's as good a dad as he can manage. That's how I look at this type of issue. Him being a good or bad dad is his responsibility not yours. My ex was rubbish and now he's much better so it could improve.

As much as you're stuck with him in life's goings on you can be free of him in your mind. Once that happens you may view him differently, you may not, but you can let him go from your mind even though you are in life's happenings technically stuck with him. I don't see I'm stuck with my ex at all, my children are unless they ever choose otherwise but I'm not. He's their dad not mine. Also my dad deals with my ex, I have nothing to do with him anymore which makes it easier so if you could find someone to deal with your ex that could help you feel better.

Much luck, love and blessings.

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resealableheart · 41-45, F

@Paliglass Thank you. When they're older I assume it will get easier but they're only little at the moment so I still have to speak to him and deal with him coming to my house once a week to take the older two out (he has no interest in the baby).

Paliglass · 41-45, F

@resealableheart it will get easier as they get older. It does make it easier with an intermediary person if you have a person who would do that.

Your ex will probably be more interested in the baby as the baby gets older. Some men, not all and I know I'm being "sexist" but some men are not too good with babies and he probably believes he wouldn't cope with all three. I know that isn't fair and in an ideal world that wouldn't be the case but wasting time worrying about that only makes it worse.

Be glad he's out of your life as you dislike him so much, accept that he is incapable of doing the things you need and expect, focus on bringing up your children as best you can and enjoy it. They grow up so quick, he's the one who's missing out but for their sake when he does decide he can manage the baby be gracious about it rather than refusing because he's been rubbish.

When you let go of expectations and look on the positive side of life everything becomes easier and happier. He's out of your life for the most part and you have three beautiful children so rather than let him tarnish that by allowing him to affect your thoughts and get caught up in how he "should" be accept how he is, let it go and focus on you and your children.

Much luck and blessings

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Paliglass · 41-45, F

@imLobo lol definitely a woman

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Paliglass · 41-45, F

@imLobo lol They are very beautiful flowers.

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Paliglass · 41-45, F

@imLobo thank you